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Old 04-27-2014, 03:37 AM
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Default So. Calif MF couple looking for a loving girl (LTR or lifetime, hopefully)

We're Alan and Anna -- and you can find out most anything about us at our blog and more -- www.theordinaryextraordinary.com -- photos, stuff about us, etc.

We live in Costa Mesa, in Orange County, southern California. We're in our late 30s. Children are certainly an option -- Alan would love to be a dad and Anna relishes the idea of being "second mom."

He's a writer, she's an artist (but her day job is in marketing). We're loving, enjoy good food and drink (mostly not fancy stuff), good movies and music, and are well-minded but simple people. We're smart but not stuffy, and we enjoy keeping things simple.

We enjoy nature and appreciating the world and good people. We're both athletic and in quite good shape. We're emotionally and financially stable. We're liberal (but not at all overly politic) and we're openminded.

He's straight, she's right-down-the-middle bisexual, and we've had stable FMF relationships in the past. But none have yet developed into a lifelong love.

We'd love to find that one girl for a lifetime triad. But we understand that things sometimes take time and we're not going to rush into anything.

Feel free to ask us absolutely anything -- we're an open book.

Much love!

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Old 05-02-2014, 07:58 PM
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Just realized we should have included some photos -- something more than the thumbnail shows.







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Old 09-23-2014, 01:34 AM
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Default Update! FM looking for F for a loving triad

UPDATE: we're planning an eventual move to New England, possible western Massachusetts -- so the woman we're looking for need not be in southern California.

Cheers, and much love,
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hey there. I just wanted to say you two are a lovely looking couple! And Im a writer myself, and love drawing (though its more for fun and a calming thing for me) Anyways best of luck to you!
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Old 09-25-2014, 08:16 PM
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Thanks, ramanda/Amanda! It's much appreciated.

And it's been lovely PMing with you and getting to know you. It's really too bad we're on the coast and you're in Missouri. Ah well.....it's always good to meet a well-minded poly person. Cheers, you sweet girl!

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We'd love to find that one girl for a lifetime triad. But we understand that things sometimes take time and we're not going to rush into anything.

Feel free to ask us absolutely anything -- we're an open book.
Since you're open to questions, I have one. If you are both in your late 30s, why are you looking for a girl? Do you want your unicorn to be a young naive person in her early 20s? Or are actual women OK prospects for your projected triad?
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Old 09-25-2014, 09:38 PM
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Magdlyn,

If you took the time to know us, you'd know what motivates us. And age is not important to us.....but intelligence is.

"Actual women" is a rather harsh way to exclude women of ages you don't find acceptable, isn't it? As they say, age is a number.....what matters is the mind. Whether she's called "girl" or "woman" or whatever.

Good luck finding what you want, Magdlyn.
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Oh OK, so you want a female of any age, and using the term girl in your title and in your post was a mistake.

You don't know what I find acceptable as far as age. My gf of 5 1/2 years is 22 years younger than me. I just thought it was a bit weird that a progressive SoCal couple would use the word girl in their ad for a mature long term relationship. Twice.

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Old 09-25-2014, 10:19 PM
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No, our word choice wasn't a mistake.

Clearly, our use of"acceptable" referred to your "Do you want your unicorn to be a young naive person in her early 20s? Or are actual women OK prospects for your projected triad?" There are non-naive WOMEN in their 20s -- just as there are infantile women in their 40s, 50s, 60s. Age does not automatically confer wisdom. Perhaps you made mistake in your phrasing.

We've been together 17 years, have been polyamorous for 15 years, and have maintained a poly blog for 7 years. We're quite sure what we want: a girl/woman/human female with a good mind, a good personality, and very few hang-ups about pedantic word issues.

Can we leave it there or do you need another go? We wish you peace.
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I think age shouldn't define us. Im 25 and a lot of people think I don't know what I want either because I haven't "experienced life" as many have told me. But how do they know?
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