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View Poll Results: Did you decide to be poly in order to fill a void where your partner should be?
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Old 04-15-2010, 04:20 AM
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\He will have more time when he moves here. Time is his need not sex. He's scared it won't be enough and this is the solution he came up with.
Just a point of clarification... is he planning on starting another relationship NOW because he's afraid he won't be satisfied with the amount of time you have for him? Or is he planning to wait and see if you are enough for him and THEN start another relationship?

Your posts make it sound like he's not planning on even giving things a chance to succeed between the two of you first, that he's planning on finding another woman "just in case" so that there's no chance he'll be disappointed etc. Is that the case?
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Old 04-15-2010, 04:30 AM
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No this isn't the case. He very much wants to try us out first.
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Old 04-15-2010, 05:12 AM
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Ok, here's my two cents... I became open to the idea of poly because I have a multi-faceted personality to an extent that makes it unlikely (if even possible) for one person to fulfill all of those facets.

To elaborate, I enjoy moose hunting, camping and fishing, yet I feel just as comfortable in an evening gown & heels at a concert. I can spend hours talking to someone about dogs and search & rescue training, or I can spend hours talking about the theories of quantum physics. I can operate power tools and snowmobiles and I can also make crafts and create works of art. I adore "cowboys" and feel totally at home on horseback... I also speak fluent German and passable Spanish and feel equally comfortable in a completely different country.

So... for me it's not that one person isn't "enough" per se... it's about the fact that each person has something different to offer and it's not fair (or logical) to expect one person to be "everything" to someone.
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Old 04-16-2010, 12:57 AM
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Ok, here's my two cents... I became open to the idea of poly because I have a multi-faceted personality to an extent that makes it unlikely (if even possible) for one person to fulfill all of those facets.
Very well said, mignightsun!!! It made me think about myself and this is the reason I am embracing polyamory also!
I like your list which shows your diverse interests!! I made my own list, but since it's a bit off topic, I will post it to my blog. Click Here.
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