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Old 04-06-2014, 12:54 PM
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2 messages from the same guy:

"i understand now its the sex ilike that me too "

"ar eu here to meet some one for a intamate pleasure time. "

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Old 04-06-2014, 02:38 PM
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Oy! Don't bang your head, he's not worth the bruise you'll get!

In a radical shift for OKCupid, I got a GREAT message this morning! Thoughtful, charming, and respectful, and he obviously read my profile. BUT... and there is a but... he told me quite honestly that he is full up on partners and not looking for anymore. He just wrote to acknowledge me "from across the crowded room," as he put it. Damn! Didn't have time to read his profile (will do that tonight), and he lives far away, but I wrote back and thanked him, and asked if we could continue conversing. I rarely find rational, good-looking, and eloquent poly people on OKC in my area, so I'd love to strike up a friendship, even if only online. Maybe he'll be okay with that.

Oh well, back to the salt mines...
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Old 04-06-2014, 05:17 PM
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Too bad he's too far away and too busy. Definite no-no's. But maybe he has a friend...

I also have better OKC news. I need to update my blog. A likely prospect has asked me out for coffee in Boston...
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Old 05-21-2014, 06:14 PM
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"I love Star Wars, in fact you look strong enough to pull the ears off a gundar.

Yeah, I got that today. Seriously.
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Old 05-21-2014, 08:23 PM
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My messages are just not entertaining enough to post (usually the 'let's have a threesome!' variety) but I got one lately. Edited a bit. My profile makes it very clear I am polyamorous and kinky.

"ok this is a diversion for me. normally i don't want to share at all. Yet, since i'm just getting back into the relationship scene i don't want to go from 0- 60 and jump right into be committed so quickly.

i'm getting older and deserve to have some meaningful fun on my way to being on lockdown by choice with that soulmate person.
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please tell me you practice safe sex. i don't want to die just yet i have one more life to live still. thx. sweetie & peace"

I think the parting sentence is just astounding.
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Old 05-22-2014, 03:20 AM
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". . . please tell me you practice safe sex. i don't want to die just yet i have one more life to live still. thx. sweetie & peace"

I think the parting sentence is just astounding.
Hell yes, astounding is a good word for it!
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Old 05-22-2014, 04:21 AM
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Ha, Opal - I got a 3some message today, a guy saying he was interested in experimenting with that. When I declined, he said he liked the look of me, so he would settle for a 1-on-1.

So nice of him to offer.
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Old 05-22-2014, 11:35 AM
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"ok this is a diversion for me. normally i don't want to share at all. Yet, since i'm just getting back into the relationship scene i don't want to go from 0- 60 and jump right into be committed so quickly.

i'm getting older and deserve to have some meaningful fun on my way to being on lockdown by choice with that soulmate person.
...
please tell me you practice safe sex. i don't want to die just yet i have one more life to live still. thx. sweetie & peace"

I think the parting sentence is just astounding.
I think the ASSumptions and ASSertions he makes throughout are astounding. I'd almost play along for a while just to see what a dick he is! You know, for a diversion.
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Old 05-22-2014, 05:09 PM
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Yeah, I was just stunned when I read that. I know people think incredibly stupid things like this but I was amazed someone actually wrote it out.

I did think about messaging him and seriously asking why he thought that wording was a good idea. But I just don't have time to even try and educate fools.

For shits and giggles, here's the follow up. I accidentally clicked on his profile when copying the original message so he saw that and messaged me again:

'I see u peeking again mi amor. would you like to do more then peek, maybe speak what is on ur mind/heart.

I am a free bird for now, but don't have a clue as to how long that will last. so if u want to get to know me, this is our chance. don't wait until i'm already committed to someone because i don't fool around on my mate.

i hope u had a nice weekend. will you send more pic's, the one is cool, but it's getting old now, even if u still look juicy in it. '

I really don't get why I should be jumping up and getting right on that - so he will be monogamous again? Why should that be of interest to me? And I for damn sure don't owe anybody any further pictures. So he thinks I'm diseased, probably fine with cheating, and have old pics to boot? *sigh*

I was chatting with a friend who identifies as very straight. She has no issues with same sex attraction/relationships - it just doesn't turn her crank. Anyway, even as a straight women - who also identifies as poly/open/kinky, she gets bombarded with threesome requests too. I thought it was just bi women who got that in droves but apparently not!

I'm not a hater of porn - it has its place - but the emphasis on MFF threesomes hasn't done anyone any favors. I've actually tried to set up MMF threesomes - it's been a non-starter so far.

Hmm, I think I will proposition random men for MMFs now...
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Old 05-23-2014, 12:50 AM
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I deactivated my OK Cupid profile permanently. It wasn't that I was poly saturated, though that was true at the time I was considering it, but to be honest. I love Runic Wolf and Wendigo. I really enjoy this thing that is emerging between Runic Wolf's girlfriend and myself - not really willing to put a label on it yet. Wendigo and I are talking a couple times a week... processing the transition back to best friends. We will always love each other and I will always be his, but we're both struggling to accept that the resentment that built up between them the last couple of years is insurmountable. And if I can't have the one person I love more than anyone but Runic Wolf, why would I want to date ever again?

I've not really experienced the jerks of OK Cupid, most of the guys that message me about strange things are on Fetlife, but either way, I'm not available and don't need to be hit on by strangers to cheer me up. The last message I got on OK Cupid was "I see you're married, did you meet your husband on OK Cupid or some other online dating site."

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