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Old 04-04-2014, 06:10 AM
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So if you could, would you have side by side toilets so you could defecate together?
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Old 04-04-2014, 05:03 PM
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So if you could, would you have side by side toilets so you could defecate together?
Yes!~ ^_^

But I would just be happy if only 1 of us had to use the toilet and the other or others stayed by that one's side holding some part of them like their leg, arm, hand, shoulder, etc.~

That is the kind of intimacy I want.~

As for the smell, well I enjoy the smell of cow feces and horse feces on the count of being around farms or passing by them a lot in my life. All it would probably take is enough time spent with them to get used to it and even like it.~

If not, then that's ok: I'm a mouth-breather any ways.~

How ever they would handle it would be up to them, the point is we would be together always in every sense.~

We wouldn't "complete" each other, we wouldn't "fulfill" each other, we are already "whole".~

I don't want some one(s) who "needs" me, I want some one(s) who "wants" me.~
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Old 04-04-2014, 05:38 PM
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Did the Navy not work out CW?

I wouldn't think you would have the spare time during IT. You definitely wouldn't be posting if you are at Great Lakes.
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Did the Navy not work out CW?

I wouldn't think you would have the spare time during IT. You definitely wouldn't be posting if you are at Great Lakes.
You are correct in your assessment: I was Administratively Separated and Discharged on March 24, 2014.~

I got into some verbal only arguments with my fellow division shipmates and I was having abnormal physical problems like horribly painful back-muscle spasms that were actually caused by suppressed stress

and this in combination with my high school history of failing to adjust I was diagnosed with a 'General Personality Disorder': basically I was having trouble 'adjusting' to 'a military Navy lifestyle'

and usually they would suggest the P.A.S.S. program as this happens some times or often to new recruits especially if they've never lived away from their parents before,

but because of my history in high school my psychologist said he was seeing a 'pattern' and he diagnosed me saying 'I never developed any social skills' and he said that this 'condition' was disqualifying so I was to be 'separated' and then processed out of the military.

At first I fought it all the way, but then I had a mental break-through of an epiphany during P.E.P. or Psychological Education Program and realized I had joined for my parents and I just severely brainwashed myself into believing I also wanted to join for myself.~ So I waived my rights and a 3 weeks later: here I am.~

What I feel like I really want is to be free, experience every thing, and happy: so I am now a Freelancer as in I don't want to have a 'permanent' job and I don't want a 'career'.~

I already have trouble dealing with stress for as long as I can remember, and I didn't realize it until I got home but the military is incredibly stressful.~

I know the rest of the Navy is not like Basic Training, but just the thought of being "tied", I compare the idea to a dog on a leash the dog is free to do what they want within confines of that leash but they are always aware that that leash is always there, now makes me want to jump on over to Canada then hitch the next ride to Europe.~ Haha!~

Oh and you do get access to the internet in separations, but you're not "supposed to" be on sites like this or 'Facebook' but most people do any ways as in their words, "I don't care." since they are being basically 'kicked out' of the military in their eyes.~
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Old 04-04-2014, 07:48 PM
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Needing someone to hold my hand while I take a crap? Now that right there would be a whole new level of Hell. And six floors down is being in a relationship with someone who needs me to hold their hand while they take a crap.
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Old 04-04-2014, 08:46 PM
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Yes!~ ^_^

But I would just be happy if only 1 of us had to use the toilet and the other or others stayed by that one's side holding some part of them like their leg, arm, hand, shoulder, etc.~

That is the kind of intimacy I want.~
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How ever they would handle it would be up to them, the point is we would be together always in every sense.~

We wouldn't "complete" each other, we wouldn't "fulfill" each other, we are already "whole".~

I don't want some one(s) who "needs" me, I want some one(s) who "wants" me.~
To my POV, your first statement contradict your last ones. A constant desire for constant touch speaks to deep-seated needs, an unfulfilled psychological itch that requires scratching -- or serious self-examination, to find root cause.

My children need me. Even as old as they are, they are not ready to survive in this world on their own with their current skillsets, physical, intellectual, or emotional.

My husband, my boyfriend.... I don't need them. I can and have lived without either of them in my life for long periods of time. But I want them in my life. I have made active choices to have them there. I believe they have done and will continue to do the same. I know they can both manage on their own without me -- indeed, without anyone at all. There are situations that can make our wants for each other feel like a need; recent NRE makes my wanting feel like a need. My husband's recent health problems probably makes him feel like he needs me at times. But circumstances change; choice remains.

Without the independence, I would have to question the choices.

Again, IMHO only.
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Old 04-05-2014, 07:35 PM
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I do not "need" any one nor any thing, I realized a long time ago that I don't "need" any thing.~

I could die right now and be content.~ I am happy now in this moment.~

I appreciate every thing and I am happy to have just experienced every thing I have.~

I don't have some "psychological hole" or "void" or "hole" to "fill", I am "whole", as "crazy" as it sounds to today's societies: I am happy just being "me" as I am.~

Love would be a wonderful experience, but I am content if it never happens in the way I see on the movie screens nor in any way at all.~

There are many things that I would like to happen, that would be great if they did happen, but if they don't happen: I am NOT "unfulfilled", I am me, I am still happy right now in this moment, have no regrets, love every thing, appreciate every thing, and I am grateful for every thing that was, that is, and that might be.~

I realized I am much happier when I stop trying to "control" every thing and just be happy "being".~
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Old 04-05-2014, 09:26 PM
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Hey Colors-

My wife and have been together for 22 years. She is my best friend. For the first 20 years, we may have spent a total of 5 nights apart...Neither one of us had outside friends...On weekends, we were together, unless one of us had to work... That was wrong for us to do that...

I can understand why you would want that... If i remember way back, i may have wanted the same thing... I love to cuddle, even after all these years.... I am glad my wife isnt as affectionate...Be very careful what you wish for...Sometimes to much together time is suffocating... It maybe fine at first, but years later?????I need to breathe... That's why we are opening our marriage...

Today, my wife and I are more like friends. With occasional benefits...

I am learning the difference between a need and a want...I didn't know the difference for the longest time...
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Old 04-05-2014, 11:49 PM
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Hey Colors-

My wife and have been together for 22 years. She is my best friend. For the first 20 years, we may have spent a total of 5 nights apart...Neither one of us had outside friends...On weekends, we were together, unless one of us had to work... That was wrong for us to do that...

I can understand why you would want that... If i remember way back, i may have wanted the same thing... I love to cuddle, even after all these years.... I am glad my wife isnt as affectionate...Be very careful what you wish for...Sometimes to much together time is suffocating... It maybe fine at first, but years later?????I need to breathe... That's why we are opening our marriage...

Today, my wife and I are more like friends. With occasional benefits...

I am learning the difference between a need and a want...I didn't know the difference for the longest time...
I am glad that you are learning the difference between "need" and "want", I'm not sure how many people do.~

Truer words than many are those words: I should be careful what I wish for, but how can I know how I feel about some thing if I never experience it?~

Some times I jump into things, some times I am extremely cautious, and some times it is a combination of both.~

Thank you for sharing that.~

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