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Old 03-02-2014, 06:33 PM
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Ms. Impatient here...
I texted at around 10pm. Basic thanks for the dinner and i enjoyed meeting you. Must admit I wanted a fairly instant yea or nay so rather than wait and wonder, which I had started to do, I decided to initiate. Glad I did.
Response was an enthusiastic me too and want to meet again soon. We texted for about an hour and I moved it to it slightly flirty territory. He responded in kind.
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Old 03-14-2014, 11:36 PM
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Things are going fine, though I am burned out on class again. Trying to squeeze in a little life around the studying.
I had my third date with OKJoe, not even progressed to hand-holding yet. He self describes at awkward and shy. Second date was dinner in his neck of the woods, very pleasant but no moves made at all. I texted about it later and he said he doesn't want to come across as creepy. Third date was a lovely walk and coffee and dessert, he did put his arm around me while listening to the band, but no attempt at a kiss. He says on his profile that he wants to take things slowly, get a long as friends first.
I am enjoying it. We have planned some very fun activities. I won tickets in a school auction for all kinds of things and he likes doing things too, so an activity partner if nothing else. He does express interest through text, pays me compliments, but it is all PG rated. It's all together rather sweet.
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Old 03-15-2014, 12:57 AM
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Sounds like a pleasant counterpart to your kink-monsters! (Couldn't resist! Bwahahaha!)
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Old 03-15-2014, 03:48 PM
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NYCIndie, so true!

Kink-monster Prof is at his spanking bottoms weekend with Ms Text, Ms Shell and another sub. He said he took my offer to step away to allow Ms Text to go as me not being interested, misunderstood. Apparently Ms Text couldn't make up her mind blah blah blah whatever. Couple privilege at its finest. Sex with Prof is also blah blah blah whatever. It was very good to good, now it's good to eh? He still seems to think it is is great. The quality and quantity is not enough, ED issues continue. I should add that my period started an hour ago so I could be a little grumpy right now. and in day 6 of quitting smoking.

Kip still makes my toes curl, hair curl and everything curl. He is currently into reduced length sex sessions 45mins to an hour ( not enough!!!!) followed by lengthy cuddles, nap and talk sessions. He currently "adores" me, he says it is his version of saying I love you, which he never says to anyone because they get all bunny boiler. Apparently while I was not seeing him he saved up a whole lot of talk and emotion and is regurgitating everything in minute detail. He pulled out his phone the other day and went through his dating email account with me. Full disclosure plus. Nice that he is making an effort, but I find I don't really care. We use condoms now, no question, same with Prof. It takes all the wondering what else they are doing out of the equation. I simply take care of me, have fun and let the rest of it go.

OKJoe is indeed a pleasant counterpart. I have not such a great track record with the dominant males so I want to broaden my dating horizons. He is not dominant at all. Possibly a bit too laid back and easy going. One of the reasons I go for the strong personality male is that I have a strong personality too and I like to be steamrolled by hot men, the relief of giving up control can be immense. I am really having to work at not taking over the OKJoe dating thing and let it run at his pace. He made a comment last night about me and my responsibilities. I said I had to be online at 10 am, he thought it was work or class related, "you and your responsibilities" it is actually to get concert tickets.

I am trying not to think about "dating" him too much, don't have time to analyze and pull it all apart either . I think the personality differences will eventually prove to be too much but hopefully we can make good activity partners.
I should add, that Kip and Prof, much as I complain about them, seem to be able to handle my quirks with patience, kindness and understanding. Kip especially doesn't not bend when the tusnami of whatever particular thing I am focused on gets released. That is why I put up with him, that and the mind-blowing sex.
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Old 03-15-2014, 03:55 PM
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I am spending my cigarette money on tickets. I have tickets for all sorts of things, wine tasting, museum, whale watching, kid activities, won some for a rodeo ( which I have given away) am buying tickets for a comedy night, concert and probably a museum trip this weekend. I will not be able to afford to start smoking again Kip is supporting my ticket addiction with cash for the big concert. Replacing one behavior with another, smoking with compulsive ticket purchasing, lol, classic.
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Old 03-16-2014, 04:44 PM
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I was a bit ticked off with Prof yesterday. Got a text asking to reschedule Weds to Monday as Ms Text and friends were coming down from Tues till Sunday. I replied with "2 bumps in one week? Ouch." He replied with " not my idea of a good time." I stewed about it yesterday and calmed down today. He has been more than reasonable when my ex flakes, in fact did 2 months of solid compromising plus quite a few others.
Half my annoyance is due to the fact that I am not really free to go without paying for a sitter or swapping nights with the ex. This is not Prof's fault but sometimes it is easier to direct anger and frustration outwards. And he is very good at not outright cancelling but rescheduling.
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Old 03-20-2014, 02:48 PM
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The last time I went on a daytime weekend date was November 2013. I have only had a few weekend night dates since Prof and Ms Text changed their rules at the the beginning of this year and those nights have been sex and food. And a few nights with rugby guy, who incidentally randomly texted me this week. I did not respond.
This weekend I am seeing OKJoe on Saturday night, we are going to a small music concert and then Sunday we are going kayaking. I am sooooooo nervous. After whining and moaning about this endlessly, it is finally happening. Weekend dates!
This is normal, right? Feels so weird.
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Old 03-21-2014, 02:49 AM
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You are so cute! I love reading about your adventures. Have fun on your date this weekend!
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Old 03-22-2014, 04:38 PM
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Thanks NYC

Let's talk about sex, baby.
I saw Prof on Monday all excited and full of ideas after his spanking bottoms weekend. I am kind of glad I didn't go, it all seemed a bit public to me and I would have had to talk to people.
He got some soft rope and tied me up with a few simple but very pretty twists. Played a bit, had a bit of sex. In his words, " I get to tie you up and fuck you as hard as I want." I said you can fuck me harder than that. The actual sex part was less than 10 minutes while tied up. Then he untied me, oh goody, I thought, here comes the good part. Nope, he was done. Wanted some after-play, holding and chatting. At one point he held me close, looked deep into my eyes and said, "I really like you, Atlantis." I responded with, " I really like you to Professor, can we hold hands sometime?" So junior high. "I really like you." I really want some sex that lasts more than 10 minutes.

Don't know what to do, he knows there is an issue, takes Cialis, so there is little to be gained by me pointing out that the things aren't quite right in that department. I am wondering if all the BD play is a bit of a cover. I played with the idea that I am not sexy or attractive enough. So I booty called Kip and we had a couple of hours and great play and sex on Wednesday. It may be only one data point in this particular study, but it did affirm that I can go for hours with the right partner. I do however remember that Yo said I was "appettive" and a very energetic lover. It was a bit much for him, he had the ED issues too. So what do I say to Prof? Every time it has come up, or down he has an excuse, tired, didn't eat enough, stress, that was great but he is satisfied.


Kip plays tennis 3+ days a week, golfs and is in good shape. Despite my smoking I am also in very good shape. (12 days and counting!!!) Prof does not exercise, I have tried to get him to do some active stuff with me and he doesn't want to. He has been very fit at points in his life so not like exercise is foreign to him.

Side step. The quitting smoking is so very hard. I quit for 5 years and started up again about 2 years ago. I keep expecting it get easier. It is not. Thank the gods for nicotine gum. I keep telling myself it is for the whales! I will not go on the boat jonesing for a smoke the whole time. People laugh when I tell them the motivation. Should be more about health and long life than an boat trip. lol.

Back to sex, or lack thereof. So, at this point, I am aware I like sex, a lot of it and pretty aggressive is best. By aggressive I don't mean painful, though the biting and scratching is the icing on the cake. I mean being completely dominated by my partner, and going hard at it. I love that energy of aggressive desire. Fuck like the world is about to end, have some slow and gentle breaks, but then amp up the volume again. I have extended this thinking to mean I don't want to have sex with OKJoe. I like him and don't want to have bad sex. Maybe he is a wild demon in bed but I doubt it. I was flirting a little last night by text then backed away. He seems very gentle and sweet and wants to take things slowly. He said he would be forward and hold my hand tonight. Still waters run deep and all that but....

I refer back to his OK profile to remind myself not to be a bossy boots. I did have to ask him for a day and time for kayaking, I have things to do this weekend. He likes to plan later in the week, I plan and schedule constantly. I do not want to be the driving force, I can be like a Mack truck. Splat. Then lose respect. He did ask me out for next weekend too, a comedy night in the city, it would involve a sitter. Is he "sitter worthy"? Think Elaine in Seinfeld . Yup it's for an activity. I'll fork out for it.

I will have to see Prof sometime over the weekend, I rode the scooter to my friend's house, a near perfect run. Then I couldn't get the beast to stay started for the trip home. Throttle full open and it kept dying. We could push it to his in 10 minutes, he lives very close to her. He texted mid-week to say he might have Saturday and/or Sunday night open. I feel I should say something about the sex, but would rather just avoid him. How mature.

So excited to see OKJOe tonight and go to the show. I have been playing the artist all week, bit country, bit blues, bit bluegrassy, bit rock. I will dance and try not to be too flirty, he is awfully cute.
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Played a bit, had a bit of sex. In his words, " I get to tie you up and fuck you as hard as I want." I said you can fuck me harder than that. The actual sex part was less than 10 minutes while tied up. Then he untied me, oh goody, I thought, here comes the good part. Nope, he was done.

. . .I really want some sex that lasts more than 10 minutes.

. . . So what do I say to Prof? . . . He texted mid-week to say he might have Saturday and/or Sunday night open. I feel I should say something about the sex, but . . .
How about saying something like, "More fucking please." That doesn't sound like you're disappointed, just that you want more.
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