Polyamory.com Forum  

Go Back   Polyamory.com Forum > Polyamory > General Poly Discussions

Notices

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #11  
Old 02-12-2014, 01:58 PM
Inyourendo's Avatar
Inyourendo Inyourendo is online now
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Crazytown USA
Posts: 1,098
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Kimk010514 View Post
I have a 10 month old son that I have to worry about also not just my self anymore my sons father is an asshole so I have to worry about hmmm myself and make sure he is in a good environment ...
Yikes! Yeah this environment sounds like it will go toxic really fast. I most definitely would look at his best interest in this and movie on. Being alone is better than staying in a crazy relationship
__________________
Sue, hinge in a vee with Nate (Polysexual) and Sam (monogamous)
Reply With Quote
  #12  
Old 02-13-2014, 03:48 AM
Kimk010514 Kimk010514 is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Evansville Indiana
Posts: 45
Default

I don't feel like I'm their live porn but I just think is bs that her husband can't even touch me in any sexually matter at all... I think it's bs that me and the bf go from having sex down to not having sex at all so how is that fair the only time me and the bf is allowed to have any sexual relations is when all 3 of us is together doing it
__________________
Me 30 first time poly
E 30 my gf and she is married to P
P 34 my bf and E husband
Reply With Quote
  #13  
Old 02-13-2014, 03:56 AM
PolyinPractice PolyinPractice is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2013
Posts: 518
Default

It is BS, but there's nothing you can do about it but remove yourself from the situation. Find adults to date
Reply With Quote
  #14  
Old 02-13-2014, 04:01 AM
Kimk010514 Kimk010514 is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Evansville Indiana
Posts: 45
Default

I don't know anyone where I live I just moved to Indiana about a month ago and don't know anyone so that is out of the question
__________________
Me 30 first time poly
E 30 my gf and she is married to P
P 34 my bf and E husband
Reply With Quote
  #15  
Old 02-13-2014, 06:08 AM
nycindie's Avatar
nycindie nycindie is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: The Big Apple
Posts: 7,420
Default

If you say NO to every suggestion people give you, then it seems you aren't really interested in a solution. It looks like you'd rather stay and put up with a bad situation that makes you unhappy rather than get off your ass (so to speak) and do something about it. You're not the first person ever to be in a strange place where they didn't know anyone and have to get their shit together and improve things for themselves. So, since no one here seems to have an answer that satisfies you, what are you going to do about it? What actions are you going to do to make sure you and your child are respected, safe, and treated well? It's really only up to you, you know.
__________________
The world opens up... when you do.

"Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me." ~Bryan Ferry
"Love and the self are one . . ." ~Leo Buscaglia "

An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
solopoly.net/2014/10/31/why-im-not-a-secondary-partner-the-short-version/
Reply With Quote
  #16  
Old 02-13-2014, 12:06 PM
Kimk010514 Kimk010514 is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Evansville Indiana
Posts: 45
Default

I never said no about meeting new people I just don't anyone where I live I just moved down here a month ago
__________________
Me 30 first time poly
E 30 my gf and she is married to P
P 34 my bf and E husband
Reply With Quote
  #17  
Old 02-13-2014, 12:30 PM
Natja's Avatar
Natja Natja is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2012
Posts: 824
Default

Why does this thread seem so very familiar?
Reply With Quote
  #18  
Old 02-13-2014, 12:48 PM
Kimk010514 Kimk010514 is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Evansville Indiana
Posts: 45
Default

Idk why does it
__________________
Me 30 first time poly
E 30 my gf and she is married to P
P 34 my bf and E husband
Reply With Quote
  #19  
Old 02-13-2014, 12:55 PM
Natja's Avatar
Natja Natja is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2012
Posts: 824
Default

Hmmmmm.....I just think it sounds awfully familiar is all....like there are several women, in the exact same position, around the same age, with the same sort of writing style, doing the same thing of complaining about a situation but refusing to take any of the advice given...it is just so tiresome.
Reply With Quote
  #20  
Old 02-13-2014, 01:26 PM
Inyourendo's Avatar
Inyourendo Inyourendo is online now
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Crazytown USA
Posts: 1,098
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Kimk010514 View Post
I don't know anyone where I live I just moved to Indiana about a month ago and don't know anyone so that is out of the question
Wow ot sounds like they really got you by the balls. They moved you there now you're stranded without resources to leave or anywhere to go. Im really sorry you've found yourself in this situation. Maybe contact a local shelter to see if they can place you?

Id suggest finding another couple to be with (one that would treat you better and with fairness) but I believe you really need to stand on your own two feet before getting into this kind of relationship.
__________________
Sue, hinge in a vee with Nate (Polysexual) and Sam (monogamous)
Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT. The time now is 07:15 PM.