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Old 01-24-2014, 01:37 AM
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Annds only if you see it that way. Some people say the fact I call myself a bitchy princess is demeaning, I just call it truth. If someone is not for being the magically perfect fit that is amazing in our eyes and has us shocked they chose us... then hey that's just not our kind of lady however thanks for the pointer love!
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Old 01-24-2014, 01:38 AM
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Okay okay, here's the obligatory article for you to read.

So, somebody called you a Unicorn Hunter?

Enjoy.

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"Our ideal person would be someone 100% our equal."
That's the right idea!
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Old 01-24-2014, 01:57 AM
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*sigh*

Few women want to be called a Unicorn, it is just so awfully objectifying.
They're sort of like the Manic Pixie Dream Girls of polyamory.

As a young bisexual female who is somewhat attractive, I still feel as though the Unicorn ideal is unattainable. I might be disease free, but I'm down with the other D, so long as they don't involve needles. I also feel like... I don't know. I get this uncomfortable feeling that the expectations are high. Plus, they usually don't want you to see other people and confine your love to the triad. As a relationship anarchist, the mere thought makes me feel encumbered
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Old 01-24-2014, 02:08 AM
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Okay, Mr. Dum-a-Quad here, but ... what's the other D?
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Old 01-24-2014, 03:34 AM
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I might be disease free, but I'm down with the other D, so long as they don't involve needles.
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Okay, Mr. Dum-a-Quad here, but ... what's the other D?
Drugs, as in "Drugs & Disease Free" - something you see in personal ads a lot. That, and HWP (Height & Weight Proportionate). Some folks really like to make a list of requirements!
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Old 01-24-2014, 03:41 AM
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Drugs, as in "Drugs & Disease Free" - something you see in personal ads a lot. That, and HWP (Height & Weight Proportionate). Some folks really like to make a list of requirements!
Haha, my guess was it was the the D of BDsm (also worked with the needles comment), though I couldn't quite follow the connection
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Old 01-24-2014, 04:02 AM
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I am by no means claiming it to be easy. . However I dcc laimio know it is possible! I have seen a few rare cases and know some people VERY close who have found a few great "unicorns" Out there
The triads that I have seen working out was just organic. No creepy craigsliat ads claiming to be a couple looking for something different than all the other couples looking to "complete their family" it was 3 people coming together out of friendship and naturally progressing to more.
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Old 01-24-2014, 04:07 AM
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And ive never seen bitv100% equal. How is that even possible? What if someone moves slower emotionally? What if new girl likes one parter enough forbsur and friendship but has romantic love for th e other? That isn't 100% equal. Love us both the same or not at all? What if new partnerbring Ewww ask up with one but wanted to continue seeing the other? Does she get the boot?
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Old 01-24-2014, 09:01 AM
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At the end of the day OP, few (if any)of us have ever seen long term success by anyone looking for a Unicorn, though people may have had success falling into a triad relationship naturally after dating separately.
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Old 01-24-2014, 11:51 PM
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Re: Drugs & Disease Free ... aha, I see the connection; thanks NYC.
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