Polyamory.com Forum  

Go Back   Polyamory.com Forum > Polyamory > Press and media coverage

Notices

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old 01-11-2014, 04:33 AM
SchrodingersCat's Avatar
SchrodingersCat SchrodingersCat is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Saskatchewan
Posts: 2,130
Default "10 realistic rules for good non-monogamous relationships"

http://sexgeek.wordpress.com/2007/06...relationships/

Confession: I didn't read every word, mostly just the headings and the bits that caught my eye... But I especially liked the "Go for content, not form" rule. And "Just go with the flow" is pretty much my motto in life, so I like that one too. I find that whenever I try to fight the current of what seems to be happening in my world, nothing good ever comes of it. Then when I forget that nonsense and just let what's going to happen happen, things seem to magically work out. Only not magic at all, just plain good sense.
__________________
Gralson: my husband (works out of town).
Auto: my girlfriend (lives with her husband Zoffee).

The most dangerous phrase in the English language is "we've always done it this way."
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old 01-13-2014, 09:43 PM
Oldpolyman's Avatar
Oldpolyman Oldpolyman is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2013
Location: Usually on the East Coast
Posts: 52
Default

Thanks for posting this piece, we did read every word. Sometimes it's good to review the basics, it's easy to forget that we are failure prone humans, and get to think our relationship will last forever since it's lasted this long, (probably dumb luck not anything we did ).
Hugs
__________________
I try to love my wives this way, unconditionally! Husbands love your wives, even as Christ loved the church, and gave himself up for her. Eph. 5:25
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 01-14-2014, 08:03 PM
opalescent opalescent is online now
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: US
Posts: 1,286
Default

I think the part about poly being about content and form is really dead on. Lots of people, including myself sometimes, get hung up on structure and such - and that is so not the point.

Thanks SC for posting it!
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 01-16-2014, 08:30 AM
Amanita Amanita is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2013
Location: All over the place
Posts: 25
Default

This is a great article, thank you so much for posting it! I really like the questions to ask yourself, that's a useful approach for anyone who's new to this, no matter which side of the equation they're on (IMO).
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 01-17-2014, 05:06 PM
Spock Spock is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: East Bay California
Posts: 134
Default

The article seems relevant to monogamous relationships too. Put another way, a mono relationship is no different than a poly relationship, except there isn't a third or fourth person (yet).
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 01-23-2014, 02:29 AM
Jade Jade is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: in a house
Posts: 188
Default

Thanks for sharing the article.
Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT. The time now is 01:12 PM.