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View Poll Results: What kind of physical touch do you like in a loving relationship(s)?~
Practically inside each other's clothes.~ 4 25.00%
Cuddling, leaning up against each other, etc.~ 6 37.50%
Hugging.~ 2 12.50%
Holding arms.~ 0 0%
Holding hands.~ 2 12.50%
Being near each other, but not touching at all.~ 1 6.25%
Being no where near each other's 'spaces' (like farther than arms'-length).~ 1 6.25%
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Old 01-13-2014, 02:02 AM
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Thank you for sharing your opinion, but no one can speak for all people or any one but themselves.
I was only speaking for myself. Do you want the members here to add to a discussion topic or not? When you ask people for their views, it is counter-productive and rude to scold them for expressing them. If you truly want to read what everyone has to share on the topic, then let them. Sheesh.
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I was only speaking for myself. Do you want the members here to add to a discussion topic or not? When you ask people for their views, it is counter-productive and rude to scold them for expressing them. If you truly want everyone has to share on the topic, then let them. Sheesh.
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No one is going to be at one level of physical expression, at all times.
Why would you profess to speak for every one else?~

I'm not angry or attacking you verbally, I'm just pointing out it's not fair to other people to completely disregard their opinions like that.~
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I was only speaking for myself. Do you want the members here to add to a discussion topic or not? When you ask people for their views, it is counter-productive and rude to scold them for expressing them. If you truly want everyone has to share on the topic, then let them. Sheesh.
Yeah I thought rhat a bit strange *scratches head*
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Why would you profess to speak for every one else?~
I didn't speak for "everyone else." I spoke for myself. What I stated was clearly my opinion. Stop trying to correct me. Not only is it tedious to do so, it is presumptuous as well.

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. . . I'm just pointing out it's not fair to other people to completely disregard their opinions like that.~
I disregarded no one. However, you are disregarding my opinion. Not that what you say matters, but it does get annoying in thread after thread after thread, when you try to get people to answer only in the ways you want them to. I won't play that.


<yawn> Outta here.
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My ideal romantic loving relationship(s) is one where we are almost always touching some how, cuddling, nestled in each others' arms, holding hands, rubbing our faces against each others', rubbing noses, kissing each other every where light, soft, few, many, short, long, etc., nuzzeling each other, rubbing our bodies against each other like cats or dogs, etc. all in public, non-public, where ever we happen to be, to just do what we feel and say how we feel!~
In here, there are some things I'd refer to as heavy petting and inappropriate in a completely public space. My answer reflected how I am comfortable with different levels of intimacy depending on where we are. In the street, casual physical affection is my limit. In a public sex club, I would have sex in front of people. My mood also comes into play because sometimes I need physical space.

I answered your question in good faith. Sex is intimate. You might not understand that but it is associated with both themes of this thread, intimacy and privacy. When you behave in this way, your lack of actual experience in relationships becomes very clear, and the chance of you gaining any experience with attractive, stable, functional adults looks very bleak indeed.
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I didn't speak for "everyone else." I spoke for myself. What I stated was clearly my opinion. Stop trying to correct me. Not only is it tedious to do so, it is presumptuous as well.

I disregarded no one. However, you are disregarding my opinion. Not that what you say matters, but it does get annoying in thread after thread after thread, when you try to get people to answer only in the ways you want them to. I won't play that.


<yawn> Outta here.
If you can not see how you literally, not "metaphorically", but literally by the words you used were disregarding the opinions of other people, then I can not help you understand, I can only try to show you.~

That's all I hopefully will say on the matter, for now I move on to getting more centered on the topic at hand.~


As for questions regarding what exactly is the question of the poll, in retrospection I now realize that I was too vague in my wording of the question, the question should read like this:

What "level" of "distance" in regarding physical touch do you like in (a) loving romantic relationship(s) more often than not?~

There should also be another option:

My preferences are not the same often enough to choose 1 of these "levels" so I choose this option and will describe my preferences in more detail in the following thread:
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In here, there are some things I'd refer to as heavy petting and inappropriate in a completely public space. My answer reflected how I am comfortable with different levels of intimacy depending on where we are. In the street, casual physical affection is my limit. In a public sex club, I would have sex in front of people. My mood also comes into play because sometimes I need physical space.

I answered your question in good faith. Sex is intimate. You might not understand that but it is associated with both themes of this thread, intimacy and privacy. When you behave in this way, your lack of actual experience in relationships becomes very clear, and the chance of you gaining any experience with attractive, stable, functional adults looks very bleak indeed.
That's your opinion and you're correct I was speaking for others when I can only truly speak for myself, therefore I will change my previous post regarding intimacy.~

I apologize and I will try to let things develop more naturally in this thread as I intended when I created it.~
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Why would you profess to speak for every one else?~

I'm not angry or attacking you verbally, I'm just pointing out it's not fair to other people to completely disregard their opinions like that.~
Honestly, someone who wanted maximum physical affection or intimacy all the time probably isn't "the full shilling". Someone who wanted distance all the time probably has some sort of traumatic past, aren't neurotypical and/or have sensory issues.
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I am very sensitive and love to be touched,as well as I like to touch my partner.In case of an approach online I am able to feel most of the time physical pleasure no matter what,I've been in a serious relationship once with a poly couple,we had great sexual experiences ,I think mind and soul work together and I'm very happy the way I have intimacy with both types of encounters . Right now I'm looking for more experiences,I respect my partner and as a priority love to everyone is in the same page,so nobody get hurt . Kissing,cuddling,licking and making feel my partner in heaven is my priority .
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I like my personal space. I just can't be doing with being touched or cuddled all the time, but from time to time i'm more than happy to have my personal space invaded...from time to time. Like, once a day, or if i'm in the mood to cuddle.
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