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Old 01-10-2014, 09:58 PM
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I like it!
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Old 01-13-2014, 08:22 PM
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I LOVE BEING POLY!

My whole dating life ages 12-20 were serial monogamy, after a couple months together, I wanted some new stuff.
Ever since entering into a poly relationship with my now-fiance, even though I don't currently have anyone on my side and he does, I just FEEL freer!
I don't feel like i'm being judged.
I don't feel like a slut.
And he UNDERSTANDS that it's about loving multiple people, not just sex.
I love that, if I fell for someone else, I could be with BOTH of them instead of having to choose.
Even when I was younger I said I wanted a husband AND wife, and people said you can only have one or the other...
GUESS WHAT NO I DON'T!!
If I love someone I can be with them, if I love two people I can be with both of them!
I just feel like my heart is huge and meant to be shared, I feel like love CAN be kept between two people, if you're monogamous be monogamous, but MY heart is designed to be shared!
I have boundless love that explodes out of me and glitterains beauty over everything <3
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Old 01-15-2014, 10:31 PM
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... yeah, I kind of like that about poly too.
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Old 01-17-2014, 06:06 PM
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Default Our Journey

Howdy All.

This thread makes my happy. Honestly this forum needs more content about success.

I am a 40 something male in a mfmf quad which started 18 months ago. I love to learn and share experiences and so far, I am the only one in my tribe who wants to do that. :-)

For the past 22 years my wife and I have been exceptionally happy together. We have a wonderful family, we are financially secure, healthy, and very loving towards each other. Absolutely nothing to complain about. We have lived a perfect and happy monogamous lifestyle.

Then 18 months ago we fell into a intimate relationship with our very best friends totally unexpected one evening (the other couple are also happily married). We thought we were all completely nuts, scared at first but something about it seemed right and comfortable. The next several months was a roller coaster of emotions for everyone. All of us had challenges overcoming jealousy and possessiveness at different times. But each time we stumbled (sometimes stumbled hard!) we quickly got over it and moved the relationship forward one step at a time, sometimes giant leaps.

Now after 18 months things are absolutely wonderful, loving and supportive. Our families are always together. We share everything, we all have open and transparent communication, kindness and respect. Everyone feels that they have personally improved during this process.

Going through these dramatic changes together, developing together, made this work. It wasn't easy but I cannot imagine my life being any better or more fulfilling as it is today.

Thanks everyone just wanted to share some happiness :-)

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Old 01-17-2014, 09:02 PM
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Yes, the forum could use more success stories -- probably because most successful polyamorists don't feel the need to frequent a poly board. They just go about quietly living their blissful/contented lives. So often it's the polyamorists who are in trouble who turn to Polyamory.com for help ... and while I admit that's what we're here for, it's still refreshing to know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. So thank you Squashking for sharing your story. Sounds like patience and stick-with-it-ness has paid off for you guys.
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Old 01-21-2014, 02:40 PM
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Having a newborn in the house has been exciting. We don't recognize anything we do as different since we are just a family, so identifying poly vignettes is tough.

However with the newborn, we have had 3 of the 4 grand mothers over consistently for two weeks. 1 of the grandmothers (our gf's mother) has been very much part of the entire process having been there for the birth. Our families accept who we are, what we are and recognize the fact that its an amazing setup for the health of everyone involved. Not to mention the love flowing.

Seeing Baby J passed around between all of the parents and grandparents has been a blissful experience and I am sure is making these initial newborn stages far easier ..
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Old 01-22-2014, 01:50 AM
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That's awesome man.
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Old 06-01-2014, 11:39 AM
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I hope it's alright if I add my own new success-story

A little back-story: I have been attracted to this wonderful lady since I met her a couple years ago, but didn't actually begin forming a friendship with her until last year when she joined our family as my brother-in-law's girlfriend. I had been very upfront with my Life Partner/husband about my attraction to her from the moment I met her, and had also been even more transparent with my bro-in-law since we were both so head-over-heals for her. Bro-in-law and I would even spend time together extolling her virtues when she wasn't around!

After a year of feeling attracted to her (but giving them time to explore their own relationship and become comfortable with each other) I finally took my chances (and maybe a couple swigs of beer for confidence!) and stepped out on a limb. I invited bro-in-law's girlfriend... Let's give her a name, Miss M., over to cut my hair - sneaky, I know! I am a sneaky bastard

Anyway, Miss M. and I had us some girly-time and she cut and styled my hair, and afterword with much hand-wringing and a few deep breaths I proposed a polyamorous relationship with her. We both talked to our primaries about it that night, and explained everything separately.

A few days later we met together for "girl time" while our primaries - two brothers - got to spend time together upstairs bonding over video games. It was so comforting - so relieving - so invigorating! - just to know that while Miss M. and I were exploring each other we had the full support of our life partners and family just a story above us! Of course the physical exploration was divine, but the afterglow which we got to share with our life partners was somehow even better! Compersion is absolutely the best thing ever, and I can't believe so many people live with jealousy instead of this emotion.

Since then I have gotten the chance to talk to my Life Partner and even bro-in-law about it personally, and we've even bumped fists a couple times and given each other nods and knowing winks! Bro-in-law has offered suggestions and advice for my next adventure with Miss M. - which I can't wait to utilize! Bro-in-law and my Life Partner (being brothers) are incredibly close and talk about literally everything together, and so I get to hear through the family grape-vine just how much Miss M. enjoyed herself! My compersion toward Miss M. and bro-in-law has only grown exponentially, and now when I see them nuzzling and cuddling together I can't help but smile to myself, knowing how the love I have shared with Miss M. has only helped cultivate and grow her love and respect for bro-in-law and my love and respect for my Life Partner - if only for the communication and respect shared between the four of us.
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Old 06-01-2014, 07:12 PM
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Yay compersion!
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Old 06-29-2014, 04:50 PM
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Ok so this is something that happened to me last night. Please feel free to share your sweet moments after mine (I noticed there was a lot of down posts so wanted to share something a bit nicer.)
Last night I was getting boyfriend started on True Blood, and I needed to go get something upstairs. So I go I get it, and I decided not to turn the light in for the stairs...(this was my great screw up! I'm aware lol!) well I missed the last stair and took a header onto concrete. (Basement) boyfriend came running and did a BRILIANT first aid assessment. And he took care of me and even layed down next to me till I got through the shock of the pain (freaky low pain tolerance here, and I tore something in my left foot for sure. So I wasn't in good shape) then he helped me get upstairs. And he stayed with me and cracked jokes and insisted I eat some chocolate while we watched funny movie reviews (That Guy With The Glasses) till I was able to go to sleep, and he helped me to bed. He has been a real sweetheart and is helping take care of my daughter and dogs today even though he didn't get much sleep. I love him. I really do! And as soon as I can walk again (I'm doing something akin to limping and trying not to fall at the moment lol) I'm going to do something special for him

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