Originally Posted by bookbug
While I may be willing to take the heat myself if I were to reveal poly to a disapproving person - and I generally have no compunctions about revealing to people who have become trusted friends - when I was involved with a couple with children, I was not willing to do something that could result in harm to the children: them being asked questions they wouldn't know how to answer by their friends, the neighbors not permitting their children to play with ours, the risk of someone notifying social services.
Right. I'm not willing to put my wife or girlfriend through that much judgement either. In most cases being obvious about relationship(s) doesn't just affect you.
Me: 39 straight male in a V with
Wife: Kay - mono female - married 17 years
LDR girlfriend: Susan - poly female - 3 year relationship
Stakes - very intimate friend