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Old 01-07-2014, 06:57 PM
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Saturday was proof that kids are not weak little things to be protected from the world.

On Saturday Murf and I had a birthday party to attend for a friend. The entertainment was not kid friendly so I paid a babysitter to watch Moose and Squirrel . The babysitter is a friend of my 19 yo lives in Chicago. She is a junior in high school. Her younger brother is Moose 's best friend and came along to

Anyway as they meet Murf who was at the house with me. Of course J who is 9 asks who Murf is. Both my boys piped up with this is Murf my moms bf. Of course J asks how can you mom have a bf she is married . Moose answers you love both your pets right. J answers yes. He then says you like more than one toy right. J says yes. Moose says you have more than one friend so you can love more than one person. Squirrel pipes up with yeah and he is the fun parent...lol.

Made me smile .
Love this Dag! I am working on trying to explain more to my 7 year old who asks more about why im with Nudge so much, why we are affectionate etc, and im contemplating just saying "yes Nudge is mommy's boyfriend" but I was worried about other kids giving him heck.Maybe I should just do it so far I've gotten as far as you can love multiple people,and I love to spend time with both daddy and nudge
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Old 01-07-2014, 07:11 PM
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They often amaze me at what they comprehend. Society has made us stunt our kids growth. I remember what my parents allowed me to do at their age. I survived.

Honestly at school and kids events don't bat an eye when the kids say this is my dad and this is my moms bf.

Unless you throw yourself out there in the public eye or shove your lifestyle down their parents throat kids don't criticize other kids lifestyles regarding their parents throat. Kids biases come from their parents .
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Old 01-07-2014, 08:03 PM
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They often amaze me at what they comprehend. Society has made us stunt our kids growth. I remember what my parents allowed me to do at their age. I survived.

Honestly at school and kids events don't bat an eye when the kids say this is my dad and this is my moms bf.

Unless you throw yourself out there in the public eye or shove your lifestyle down their parents throat kids don't criticize other kids lifestyles regarding their parents throat. Kids biases come from their parents .
thanks for the vote of confidence Dag. I think we'll strt with that with them. they are 7 and 5.

I''ll probably post my telling the kids ides article hear when its up.
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Old 01-24-2015, 04:33 AM
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Should my kids be taken away by their father because I am polyamorous and he doesnt like it? Father not involved in the polyamory, kids are not aware of it. Adult things should stay with the adults.
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Old 01-24-2015, 11:20 AM
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Should your kids be taken away? No. Unfortunately, my opinion doesn't matter in this situation.

Fortunately, most courts (in the Western world, anyway) would agree with me. I take it you're a biological parent? Generally, biological parents have to seriously fuck up to lose custody of their children. As long as you're not putting your children in danger, it is EXTREMELY unlikely that you would lose your children over being polyamorous in itself.

I'm guessing the father made a threat? He's trying to scare and manipulate you, and it's essentially an empty threat. You've got nothing to worry about, aside from having to deal with an asshole.
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Old 01-24-2015, 03:28 PM
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My kids are exposed to polyamory daily. Hell we are at Murf's house right now for the weekend.

They are thriving. Straight A students with a ton of friends. Happy go Lucky boys who have a lot of people who love them.

I wouldn't worry.
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Old 01-25-2015, 02:38 AM
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Being poly SHOULDN'T affect whether the kids get taken by the father or not...

Unfortunately though, I have a lot of experience with courts going against what should or shouldn't happen. If a judge does rule in favor of the ex (because of you being poly), I'd recommend appealing the ruling.
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Old 02-01-2015, 03:33 AM
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We plan to get kids and simply raise them as part of a poly family. It is a lifestyle choice, not a sexual arrangement.
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