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Old 12-27-2013, 02:52 AM
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I know my feelings are my own, there isn't really a right or wrong to them, but I wonder if anyone else would feel hurt as I do? (the source of the hurt really being from the broken agreement)
I would (and did) feel hurt by it when Dude, early on, assumed that the "condoms except between the three of us (until discussed and agreed upon)" didn't apply to previous (presumed safe?) partners. I was more disappointed than devastated...and spent a day or two collecting my thoughts and responses before we had "the discussion".
...we talked and got straightened out.
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Old 12-28-2013, 03:45 PM
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I'd be appalled if a partner shagged another without using protection. What was he thinking? Huge part of being fluid bonded is being rock solid about condom use with new partners!
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