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Old 02-26-2010, 03:55 PM
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He has consistently refused to speak to me about our situation (before yesterday morning) and i am done trying. Last night he was talking to me and telling me about his day as if nothing happened at all. I really don't think that he gets it. Or maybe it's me that doesn't...
Such frustration is understandable. We never want it to get to this point, and that is regrettable, all you can do about that part is apologize for your part and move on, but your frustration is understandable. I really strongly suspect... he gets it. Who wouldn't, you know? If nothing else, you flat out told him. I think you're done here and, pretty soon, your only regret will be that you didn't leave sooner. Sorry. But things will be better as soon as this is over. Poly or not this is not a healthy relationship for you. PM if you want.
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Old 04-02-2010, 09:03 PM
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March has been a very stressful and not very fun month for me. My relationship is over, I am living on my brothers couch but I am happier than i have been in months. I didn't realise how abusive the relationship I was in was. I couldn't see the subtle abuse that was taking place each and every day in that house.

This experience has not soured me on polyamory though, as it was not a truly poly relationship. It was a "relationship" that was based on meeting S's needs and wants first, then M's and if mine met some arbitrary criteria, then my needs could be met too, but only if i was a good girl. I am so happy to be out of that house and that emotional mire. I am excited about poly still. In fact I was the first one in that relationship to want to create a poly relationship and i still want to but i want a healthy one and one that is open and honest.

Thanks for everyone's support in a very difficult time for me and i will be lurking around the forum and putting my 2 cents in from time to time.
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Old 04-02-2010, 09:17 PM
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Thanks for everyone's support in a very difficult time for me and i will be lurking around the forum and putting my 2 cents in from time to time.
Take care, Assets
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