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Old 04-01-2010, 06:59 PM
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Default Dating Married people

Does anyone have any advice on dating married people?

I am seeing a woman right now who's husband has also started seeing someone almost at the same time. We have all known each other for over a year and were all friends before this. The husband met and started seeing someone immediately. It went very fast and they spend a great deal of time together I am lead to believe. While me and his wife hardly spend any due to circumstances that are beyond her control and that I have a busy life.

I am trying to organize my time differently so that I can see her and even talk to her on the phone or chat on line, but it is very difficult. We don't have similar schedules and both have kids and houses to take care of and I have a husband too, a boyfriend and other commitments to people romantically and otherwise.

My frustration lies in that I want to be there for her, but I am unable to be. Not only that I am not sure if I should be. I know she needs someone to talk to about everything that is going on with her husband, but as we are all friends I'm not sure that should be my roll. I have listened and given her my thoughts, but come away feeling as if it might not of been a good idea.

I find myself unable to decide what, if any, my roll should be and frustrated right along with her that he is able to see his new girlfriend whenever he wants pretty much. All this while we struggle for the shortest of texts during work hours or otherwise.

Any thoughts? experiences? questions?
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