It's tough to find compatible people. Keep in mind you're not alone! It's true for all "minority" or "non-mainstream" groups, I think, not just for poly or bi/les women. For example I have a straight friend who's looking to meet a nice Jewish guy and she's actually considering moving to New York City to increase her dating pool.
Since you're already in the epi-center of the Free-Love movement, relocating probably won't increase your chances but maybe you could make other changes in your life to help connect with and attract the kind of people you want to meet. Or if you've already tried that... well you know what they say.... "If all else fails, lower your expectations!" (yes I have followed that advice myself many times. But I use the concept of "changing priorities" rather than "lowering standards.")
Last edited by lisbeth; 03-30-2010 at 09:06 PM.