Originally Posted by Spock
So let me try again, since the wall of text might have been too dense.
She is in love with two men. That's perfectly acceptable, given we are in a poly forum. What's the problem?
There's nothing wrong with that if it's acceptable to all involved. The thing is is she feels like she screwed up and got too close and fell for him. I feel threatened by it because right now she has been devoting the majority of her love and attention to him. She repeatedly says she doesn't want a boyfriend. Just a friend with benefits. But now it's turning into more and I think it's scaring her.