Originally Posted by bofish
Also, the primary issue is WE made an agreemnt, they both disrespected it. I feel worthless.
Your agreements are with him, not with her. If he's not sticking with them then yes, it's a problem. You need to remember though that it's a problem you have with him, not a problem you have with her. Don't try to fix it by trying to change their relationship (ie being controlling), fix it by working on your own relationship with him and making sure he sticks to what he says (ie expecting him to act like an adult).
Again, it's up to him to make sure he sticks to your agreements while he's with his girlfriend. It's not up to you to make sure she sticks to them for him.