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Old 11-07-2013, 03:08 AM
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Just curious if you have kids and are planning on the bf moving in, what do your kids know? Have they even met your bf? How would you explain a new man moving in to them? I am not saying it is a bad idea, I am just saying that these are things that will need to be thought out.
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Old 11-07-2013, 04:13 AM
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I am the hinge between my husbands.

We handle things by having two separate households. I travel between the two. My time is split as close to 50/50 as I can get. The days Butch works my sons go with me for weekends or days when they are out of school.

Murf comes over on occasion and sees me at the other house. But I try to make sure each man has their own territory.
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Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
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Old 11-15-2013, 02:04 PM
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Perhaps he has fears (as I did, and still do a little) that he won't meet many compatible women?

I know from experience in the last 2 years I've probably met only a few women I was compatible with and expecting them to be ok with me being polyamorous just narrows that net even tighter... I should point out I did meet a girl recently who was poly, but it wasn't possible then and I'm kind of fearing that I might not meet another person I would like to date who is poly and compatible potentially for years.

My point is that perhaps he would rather stay celibate than go chasing something he's sure (in his own head) that won't happen, or worse still divorce you and no longer have his kids? They don't sound like very good options so if this is the way he's thinking then maybe that's why he's choosing celibacy?

Perhaps you could suggest he check out the poly or kink scenes so he can meet some open minded people? Or failing that you could hold a dinner party at yours and ask each of your guests to bring along one open minded, preferably singe/poly, female friend who has never met your husband...
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