Secondaries: Integration/In a Bubble
I'm curious, from those who are secondaries: how much are you a part of your bf/gf's life?
Are you kept completely isolated, and a secret from, from their friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, or anyone else?
Is your relationship known to some of the people in your partner's life? Is there some integration, but some people from whom your partner chooses to keep your relationship secret (or private, if you prefer?)
Or are your partner's friends, family, neighbors, and co-workers as much a part of your life as they would be if you were a spouse?
If your partner, or the two of you jointly, decide to keep your relationship private from some or all, what are your reasons?