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Old 09-15-2013, 04:41 PM
LookingGlass LookingGlass is offline
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Default Open relationship

NYC couple in an open relationship for many years.

We just don't think it's natural to limit sexuality to one person, but it is or can be natural to want a life partner! Or partners.

Don't think it needs to lascivious. People are sexual beings, that's not naughty or dirty is it? Complicated by society though huh?
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Old 10-15-2013, 12:31 AM
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polyreggaelover polyreggaelover is offline
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Default Hi from Si

Hi to all. I am a sex positive poly-virgin, I have been in a monogamous relationship for 18 years with a woman and we have a child. Really love the glossary and potential of polyamory, and I am excited to explore and find out more. I actually tried to explain compersion to a potential lover recently and couldn't understand why she found it such an alien concept! But I do understand, it can be pretty horrible being single when you don't really want to be so it is natural to be possessive, and it is true that when you are looking around existing relationships will change. But from a polyamorous point of view when someone dumps you they are basically trying to hurt you. Its not to do with you and your failure as a lover and a person, however real those failing are.

In the last three years I have changed slowly, it started when I became tired of staying in, playing chess and monopoly on the internet and started looking for new friendships and going out.

I started to reassess my past experiences and started smoking marijuana and drinking again (but not random drug-taking) and going out dancing.

I started to become attracted to other women and men. I fell in love/infatuation with a woman but it didn't work out, but I was honest with my partner and established an open relationship, at present I am very much in love with her and I think she will always be my primary and is a monomour, but I realise now that my life isn't set in stone despite what I think, so I accept that it could change.

I came out as bi last year and dated and slept with a man but it didn't work out. I also went to a swinging club a couple of times (boring, but it may have just been quiet nights), went to a gangbang (exciting but I was a bit too stoned), a naked sex orgy (that was great, fucked three women and had an orgasm that almost made me pass out), but really want intimacy and love, swinging doesn't turn me on much.
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Old 10-18-2013, 04:31 AM
MAnderson MAnderson is offline
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M Anderson here,

My story is simple. I've never been faithful to anyone and lived for years under the assumption that I am a cheater and going to burn in hell.

Then I met my besty who is Poly and she helped me understand the monogamous box my non-monogamous spirit was trying to fit into.

Two years later I am divorced....again. And happy to be living an honest life!

I am bi. I prefer men and love women if that makes sense. I am more interested in loving caring giving relationships.

I have been interacting with Poly couples but have never actually been in a Poly relationship as of yet.

I am a mature woman. Almost 40. Successful. I value fitness. I am a mother. A lover of the arts.....

I am looking forward to living Poly. I had a community of people in Omaha but in Cheyenne Wyoming there is nothing but chirping.....

Looking forward to meeting you!
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Old 10-24-2013, 11:36 AM
AllTheLove AllTheLove is offline
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Hello there! My name is Mae and I live on the East Coast of Canada.

I have four partners (three men, one woman).
My primary partner, Joe, and I have an eighteen-month-old daughter. Joe is bisexual. He's in a sexual, but not romantic, relationship with his best friend, Lincoln. He doesn't see other people.
My other two male partners are Harry and Wayne.
Harry is straight and otherwise single; he travels a lot for work and casually dates in different cities, but we're his home port.
Wayne is bisexual and has a live-in girlfriend, Annie. Wayne and Annie have several sexual relationships with men and women. Annie often joins us sexually but she is emotionally interested in only Wayne.
My female partner, Maggie, is Lincoln's girlfriend. She doesn't see other people romantically or sexually, as per her agreement with Lincoln.

That looks complicated. Here's a cheat sheet:

Mae: Romantically and sexually involved with Joe, Harry, Wayne, and Maggie. Sexually involved with Lincoln and Annie.
Joe: Romantically and sexually involved with Mae. Sexually involved with Lincoln.
Harry: Romantically and sexually involved with Mae. Sexually involved with other women.
Wayne: Romantically and sexually involved with Mae and Annie. Sexually involved with other men and women.
Maggie: Romantically and sexually involved with Mae and Lincoln.
Lincoln: Romantically and sexually involved with Maggie. Sexually involved with Joe.
Annie: Romantically and sexually involved with Wayne. Sexually involved with other men and women.

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Old 10-24-2013, 12:14 PM
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Default My sumary...

I posted it into my 'Introduce Yourself'. Its too long to repeat, so a link to it would be more appropriate, I think,...

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Old 10-26-2013, 06:18 AM
CosmicDreamer CosmicDreamer is offline
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The name's Alexia, 22 years old, and living in Mobile, Alabama, USA.

I'm a college student at a community college, just finishing up my degree. I'm proud to say I'm openly bisexual in real life to anyone who asks, and I will admit, I'm curious to the whole polyamory thing, especially triads, and I have made it clear to a couple of close confidants, that I am curious on it. If not fully into it, I support it because I do believe in the idea of loving anyone regardless of gender or how many you love, as long as everyone involved knows, of course.

I do indeed have a fiance, who is, as he describes, "75% straight, 25% gay," but says he's bisexual. I think he's just nervous of guys... But, as I type this, I'm nervous of falling into the whole... "Unicorn Hunter" category.

To me, I'm curious on triads, but it doesn't matter who I fall in love with, whether my friends or family know about it or not, whether you're a girl or a boy, and the whole criteria that "unicorns" have to fit. It stings a little bit knowing that triads are kinda hard to come by, even harder if you're seeking it. I wanna change that, but, like my own relationship, it takes work, patience, compromise with all parties, not just two, understanding, and everything else. Right now, I can definitely say I'm not completely ready to look, but I am interested, and so is my fiance. Whatever happens with friends, happens, it shouldn't be forced or searched for, really. At least that's what I think.

And I'm ranting again... I will warn you, I have a tendency to do that often on my opinions, as well as get off topic... often. But I'm a person who is admittedly shy, and somewhat of a lurker, only posting when I'm inspired. Overall, my fiance and I consider ourselves to be pretty cool people to pal around with, maybe something a little more if fate intervenes for all three of us. Mostly, I think we just need new friends in our lives before we start getting lovey with a nice boy or girl.

Anything else? .....I like video games, and I'd love a career that involves art or working at home.
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Old 10-27-2013, 06:01 AM
Christinah57 Christinah57 is offline
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Default Hi I'm Chris from Houston Texas

I'm very new to this lifestyle. I've never had a triad relationship but have had a deep desire to try it for sometime now. I've always been very open minded and a free spirit about relationships. The rigid monogamous rules that others lived by just never made much sense to me and as I've matured I see less and less reason to live my life by others standards. I truly believe u can love more than one person at a time and that as long as u respect each other's boundaries and communicate this lifestyle can work for everyone involved. I am hoping to find other like-minded people looking for the same. I am a single (divorced) heterosexual female looking for a couple MF or MM to explore with. I live right outside Houston Texas, in Spring.
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Old 10-29-2013, 11:49 PM
Faeryseduction Faeryseduction is offline
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Default Sorta Kinda New

Hi all -

I am technically new here, not having posted much, but I was gone for a bit and now am back!

Happily married for nearly five years to a great guy and poly for about three of those years! From the Philly area, I'm 50, he's 41. He and I have both already been through a few poly break ups, seems like it doesn't take too long to get your feet wet in that area. He is totally straight and has a girlfriend, I'm bi and have a boyfriend. (My most recent break up was with a girlfriend, one who had lived with us for awhile, and that one really hurt). We are not unicorn hunters, although it is interesting in that in the beginning we thought we'd try that out. Found out quickly it was not a great approach and we've both enjoyed our own relationships since then.

Anyway, I'm mostly here to meet new friends and find other poly folks of a like mind to talk to. I'm an artist, Pagan, work in academic.

Hope to get to know some of you!

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Old 10-30-2013, 09:13 PM
PolyCouple2013 PolyCouple2013 is offline
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We are a [M/F] couple that are happily married for two years.

We both recently discovered the idea, concept, lifestyle, and fulfillment that Polyamory offers both of us in our growing relationship.

We both already have a mutual interest who is already an open Polyamory person and whom is also a member of this forum.

We hope to learn a lot from this community and each other from experienced Polyamory families as we attempt to start our first Polyamory family.
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Old 10-30-2013, 09:29 PM
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Originally Posted by PolyCouple2013 View Post
We both already have a mutual interest who is already an open Polyamory person and whom is also a member of this forum.
And that would be me. ^^; I'm about 25, from a small Midwest town, and I only know one poly irl, unfortunately. The whole thing is somewhat new to me, though I've had thoughts of it for at least a year, probably longer.

I broke up from a monogamous relationship a few months ago, but it had been going downhill for a while (almost a year when I look back at it). That said, this new possible relationship just...makes everything okay. I'm deeep in the throes of NRE, but I'm well aware of that and trying to take it slow.

I just want everyone to be happy. :3
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