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Old 10-14-2013, 07:38 PM
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Yeah, I'm sure it takes more than 36 hours ... Probably going to be tough to sleep.
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Kevin,than you(we posted at the same time). That is how I am trying to deal with it. Just taking it one moment at a time.
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Old 10-14-2013, 09:53 PM
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Death of a loved one is a big deal to me this year. I lost my wife to Alzheimer's a few months ago. Sigh. A good thing for her, not such a good thing for me. I miss seeing her face.
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Old 10-14-2013, 10:21 PM
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*hugs*

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how painful and difficult it must be, and am keeping you in my thoughts.
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I haven't really slept since the first incident happened; but, yes, the last two nights were pretty awful.

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Old 10-14-2013, 11:38 PM
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I'm sure you'll be exhausted by the time you do get to sleep. Sometimes all you can do is stare at the ceiling remembering the lost loved one.
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Old 10-15-2013, 01:24 AM
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I'm sure you'll be exhausted by the time you do get to sleep. Sometimes all you can do is stare at the ceiling remembering the lost loved one.
That is exactly what I am doing. I think it would be less hard if I hated him, but I don't. I can still smell him on my sheets, feel his hands on me, his lips on mine, see his smile as we laughed together almost like he was there. Except he isn't, of course.

So, yeah, long, sleepless nights.

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Old 10-15-2013, 04:46 AM
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Yeah, death is bad. Death takes all the good things you had with that person and takes them away. Forever.

And then there's your situation which is worse, because you didn't even get the closure of death. You just have a limbo state in which you repeatedly wonder if maybe you couldn't just hurry back into his arms. This is a death that you have to enforce, with no help from him or your head or your heart.
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Old 10-15-2013, 09:25 AM
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Oh how gut-wrenching, I sure hope I will not ever have to go though the same.
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Old 10-15-2013, 06:24 PM
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You know one thing that surprised me, at how deeply it affected me (in a bittersweet way) was hearing again and remembering some of my wife's favorite songs. I alone remain to try to appreciate them in the spirit she would have. Have you had any such musical stings in your heart lately, GreenAcres? What do you miss the most about this man you've lost, or what affects you the most poignantly about him?

Hope I'm not prying.
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