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Old 10-04-2013, 08:47 AM
Hoyam Hoyam is offline
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Default Comparing

How do you prevent to compare? My husband, not totally convinced that poly is his thing, keeps comparing himself to my boyfriend. I explain all the time that it would be not logical if he and my husband would be identical. Why a second partner if he offers me exactly the same.
My husband keeps feeling that the fact that i can feel this for somebody else than him is a problem. He wants to offer me what i find with my boyfriend, but that is not possible.
I want to help him with this feeling, but i don't know how. Every conversation about this subject he turns into talking about the other man. I think it's better to focus on our relationship than to focus on the other man.

My problem now is that i sometimes notice that his constant comparing makes me compare more too. I don't want that, cause i don't think it is good for us. Anybody good advice how to change this?
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