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Old 09-30-2013, 08:15 PM
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It's possible the cold sores may have been canker sores (sometimes the two look very similar).

I also have always tested negative for HSV 1 & 2, but did have canker sores when I was younger.
It is my understanding that herpes lesions are a pustule, often like a pus filled small pimple. Canker sores are like craters. You could have a herpes lesion and just think it's a small zit.

I used to get canker sores when I was younger and now put it down to a lack of vitamin B, because I was so often dieting and not eating many carbs (wheat products). My sister got canker sores worse than me and started taking a B supplement and they didn't recur.

So I went to my health clinic for a STD panel today. I asked for tests for HSV 1 and 2 (besides the other stuff). The dr tried to talk me out of it, citing that 90% of people worldwide have HSV 1, and then what would I tell new partners if I tested pos? I said, never mind all that, I just want to know. Results should be ready in a week.
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Old 09-30-2013, 09:09 PM
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It is my understanding that herpes lesions are a pustule, often like a pus filled small pimple. Canker sores are like craters. You could have a herpes lesion and just think it's a small zit.
Huh... Interesting (and a bit disconcerting) that for years, I would have the occasional onesie-twosie "zit" in the pubic region (not to mention that ingrown hairs do the same thing). Thanks for the info - time for some digging into this, myself...
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Sometimes they are just a spot of dry skin that is a little flaky and very itchy. Sometimes zit like (small or large but no "head").
Sometimes they are like a scratch.
Sometimes similar looking to the beginning of impetigo.
Sometimes just a redness on the skin.

Not always in the pubic region.
I most frequently get them at the base of my tail bone...

They can appear inside of the vagina or anywhere on the external part of the body including the eyes-which is most common in babies exposed during delivery.

Stress can be a trigger. Hormonal changes can.

Often people have NO IDEA they have a breakout when they do.

I usually feel the itchiness before there is any visible sign.
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Old 10-01-2013, 03:05 PM
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When the dr was ordering my STD tests, I noticed tests for HSV1 and 2 weren't even on the form. There were tests for just about every disease you could think of on the form, but not those. He had to write them in. So, since miss pixi goes to the same clinic, and she's asked to be tested for "everything" but never specifically herpes, my guess is she's never actually been tested for it.

In other news, Mischa's one interest, that I called a "potential," who broke up with her after her diagnosis, I found out yesterday they have actually already dated and had sex. It was his wife that she was considering also becoming involved with. Turns out they all hot tubbed together last weekend, so all is not lost.

Ginger has made an appointment for a physical in January and plans to get tested for STDs + herpes then. I suggested he get tested sooner, since if he has HSV1 and 2, all this worry about Mischa will be moot. But he said he didn't want to. So I let him be. Personally I'd want to know sooner, but it's his choice.
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Old 10-01-2013, 04:52 PM
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That's so common here.
If you ask to be tested for "everything" they test for Chlamydia, Gonnereha (can't remember how to spell it) and syphilis.
They don't SAY that to you.
I had to ask about it to find out.
And that is "state norm".
If you want to be tested for ANYTHING else you have to specify by name.

AND
the results just say "your tests came back negative" unless something is positive.
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Old 10-02-2013, 01:57 AM
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That's so common here.
If you ask to be tested for "everything" they test for Chlamydia, Gonnereha (can't remember how to spell it) and syphilis.
They don't SAY that to you.
I had to ask about it to find out.
And that is "state norm".
If you want to be tested for ANYTHING else you have to specify by name.
I have been offered Hep C and HIV when I've been tested. This time the dr also asked me if I wanted a Hep B vaccine.

"gonorrhea"
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Old 10-02-2013, 03:31 AM
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I asked about all of them and after finding out from our personal dr that it wasn't the "norm" to test for any but those three (he was happy to do the tests but was educating me per my curiosity and he also knows we are poly)-I went researching.

I am still so offended over it. LOL

But-it is the norm for Alaska to only test for those three unless someone specifically requests to be tested for something else specific. You can go in and ask for HIV testing anywhere.
But-herpes tests are a BITCH to get. Especially if you want insurance to cover it or need to go to the sliding fee-scale clinics. They flat don't do them.

It's disturbing.

I brought it up in the poly group here (before I left the group) and no one else was aware at all. Several went asking after I brought it up-and were horrified to find out that all of this time-they THOUGHT they were being tested for "everything" because that is what they asked for. But-they weren't.

Most people-haven't a clue.
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I brought it up in the poly group here (before I left the group) and no one else was aware at all. Several went asking after I brought it up-and were horrified to find out that all of this time-they THOUGHT they were being tested for "everything" because that is what they asked for. But-they weren't.

Most people-haven't a clue.
Well, umm... wouldn't they have found out when they got the results? It's all spelled out, so if they don't see a test for HSV on the print-out, then... you know, logically, there was no test for it.

I don't get it. How could people think they were tested for something that they weren't? Don't the docs go over the results with them? And doesn't everyone ask for a hard copy nowadays, to see all the test results in black & white? If they're not doing that, do they just expect their new potential lovers to take them at their word what their test results were?

I'm stymied here.
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My doc just said that I had tested negative for everything except for BV, when I was tested. I actually left the office and then went back in to ask for hard copies of the test results. They didn't offer them as a matter of course, and actually had to print them off one by one instead of having a single sheet. I told my boyfriend that instead of framing them, he'd need a shadowbox to display them all. He declined to look at them though - he trusted I was telling him the truth.
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Old 10-02-2013, 01:44 PM
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Hmm, I live in Massachusetts. The first time I was tested, the printout I got was so technical and confusing I didn't really understand it. Next time I was tested, at the same dr's office, but they had a new STD clinic in place and even though I was negative for everything, I had to go in and get my printouts and consult with a guy... I don't think he was a MD, some kind of specialized lab tech who seemed educated in STD counseling. Those printouts were much more clear and easy to understand.

Now, I am with a different clinic, that specializes in GLBT folk. I saw an actual dr, got my vitals and weight taken, and was also asked if I was feeling any aches or pains, and we talked about my bad knee! The dr said he'd email me when the results were in. miss p has been going to this clinic for a while, and told me the email will include a link to my personal med. records to show my results. If there is anything positive I will be asked to come in to the clinic for treatment options.
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