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View Poll Results: What is the configuration of your relationship?
Single 3 4.62%
Closed couple 5 7.69%
Swingers 0 0%
Couple and dating with no serious outside partners 8 12.31%
V, N, or etc 36 55.38%
Triad, quad, etc 9 13.85%
other 4 6.15%
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Old 09-25-2013, 01:46 AM
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It's complicated.

I've got 2 partners. GF lives with me, BF doesn't. He is married and lives with his wife. My gf has 2 other potentials and so does my bf (and both his potentials are poly)! I've decided not to date for a while. Way too much going on with all the others.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

Mags (poly, F, 61) loving Pixie (poly, F, 39) since January 2009, living together since 2013
"Master," (mono, M, 36), Pixie's Dom for 3+ years
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Old 09-25-2013, 02:28 AM
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Currently I am the hinge of a V with M & C. C has various less-serious relationships mainly with T1 & T2. M is a new relationship but more serious than others I've had.
Solo poly
Me, Dino: 58 single straight male
Gidget: 51, single, straight, sub
Liza:42, married, straight
Celia: 52, single straight
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Old 09-25-2013, 03:48 AM
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Physically we're in a V with JP as the hinge between J, his wife of 13+ years, and myself. Emotionally it's somewhere between a V and a triad.

J doesn't express any interest in dating outside of the relationship configuration we currently have - JP says that he couldn't handle another relationship - I haven't met anyone else that I'd be interested in dating.

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Old 09-25-2013, 04:55 AM
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The most easily identifiable relationship configuration is a V, with IV as a hinge between CV and I. This is the easiest to identify because the three of us are living together.

However none of us are bound to any kind of configuration in any way; IV and CV have other partners and are dating other people. I'm currently only seeing IV.
Me: male, 43, straight, non-hierarchical, independent
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Old 09-25-2013, 05:12 AM
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Default It's complicated

Hinge of a few Vs, with some of the arms of each V also each their own hinge.

That's confusing. Here's a better way. Married, and the hubby and I both are dating people who are also married, and in some cases, THEIR spouses are in other relationships.
~Arabella's Aria~

Arabella - Me, 36, female
DH - Arabella's Husband, 36, male
S, DH's new relationship, 35, female
Mr. C. - Arabella's boyfriend, 35, male, married to E
E - Mr. C's wife, 35, female
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Old 09-25-2013, 07:48 AM
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No recognizable shape or letter

I'm with Moonlight and Fly as sort of semi-co-primaryishes. Moonlight considers herself mono, I consider myself poly, and Fly considers himself open. Fly has one ongoing FWB and also has casual sex. Additionally, I have a beloved sexy friend, Punk, who is married and involved in some sort of kinky poly tribe that I don't really understand.

- Moonlight, single, leans monogamous, girlfriend since 6/2012
- Punk, married guy, poly, FWB since 9/2011 with an emphasis on the "F"
- No longer lives with ex-boyfriend Fly (1/2006 - 12/2013, my introduction to nonmonogamy, ultimately amicable breakup), and his 11-year-old son Kiddo
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Old 09-25-2013, 09:48 AM
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I'm not sure I could explain it, so I drew a picture:

I'm the blue one.
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Old 09-25-2013, 10:05 AM
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When you say dating other people but not serious, do you mean that there is a rule saying it can't be serious, or you aren't serious with anyone else right now?
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Old 09-25-2013, 11:19 AM
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Dating but not serious right now.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 50/50 split of time between my two husbands.
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Old 09-25-2013, 11:50 AM
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I'm the hinge in a V between my hubby and my boyfriend, but part of an N with a tassel on the end - my boyfriend is married and his wife has several play partners.
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Wife to DarkKnight (41M) & PunkRockAwesomesauce (43M)
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