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Old 09-21-2013, 08:59 AM
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Although the guy I'm seeing is 300 lbs but he is just a big guy. I'm kind of surprised I'm attracted to him
Heh. When I first met my husband, he was 350 lbs. I had never dated a man who was overweight, much less that large. He was absolutely the most awesome person I had ever met though, so I figured we'd do a one night thing because I absolutely HAD to be with him. Funny how things work out!

My current boyfriend is MUCH closer to being my size, but I am not likely to be discriminating based on weight now for a partner!
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Old 09-23-2013, 07:51 PM
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As long as we are digressing: Two anecdotes:

1. My rideshare partner recently became single and I suggested that he do meet up groups rather than online dating. And boom! He was shocked but he has had a number of great interactions and a date for this Wednesday after maybe 3 weeks of meet ups. Pretty good! He is 57, single, monogamous, in great shape and vanilla. There is definitely a bigger dating pool for him but still.

2. My SO, C, is tall and heavy but I love the distribution, very Rubenesque. I am HWP, a few extra pounds, ok for my age. But recently my dates have been tiny hardbodies which has caused her some distress but she's dealt with it. My current girlfriend, M is training for a marathon. I love the contrast.
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Old 09-24-2013, 01:52 PM
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2. My SO, C, is tall and heavy but I love the distribution, very Rubenesque. I am HWP, a few extra pounds, ok for my age. But recently my dates have been tiny hardbodies which has caused her some distress but she's dealt with it. My current girlfriend, M is training for a marathon. I love the contrast.
I hope she can work through that, any discomfort. Nudge's wife and I experience that, I am taller than her and curvy but not heavy with an ample chest...shes is short, tiny, and muscular. But Nudge loves the difference so neither of us have anything to worry about
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Old 09-24-2013, 07:43 PM
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I hope she can work through that, any discomfort. Nudge's wife and I experience that, I am taller than her and curvy but not heavy with an ample chest...shes is short, tiny, and muscular. But Nudge loves the difference so neither of us have anything to worry about
I noticed that I tend to focus on differences that I perceived as "faults" (or insecurities) in myself (he's younger, more buff). So while she perceived her size as an issue, I certainly did not.

It's all worked out quite nicely.
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