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Old 09-20-2013, 11:13 PM
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There are some apple and orange comparisons going on.

Treating phobias through BDSM could very much work. That would be exposure therapy. Trusting someone enough to exposure you to a fear in a safe environment, often gradually. Things like restraint, cages, blood, being dominated etc
Says she who has issues with being restrained, and has worked up to being restrained with emergency release that I can't use and cuffs tight enough that I can't pop out of them. That has taken a while Still won't let them do it at the obg/gyn office though! No straps on my ankles, thank-you.

Cutting and other forms of self-harm are more likely the result of a mood disorder, the endorphins released by cutting create an "artificial" chemical high. By artificial I mean deliberately created. Like the runners high.


The treatment for this would not be exposure therapy. but probably physciatric and would require blood tests too, to ascertain if there is a chemical imbalance.

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Old 09-21-2013, 01:19 AM
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What does pillow princess mean?
I believe it means someone who just lays back on her pillow and tells her lover what to do. Kind of like, "Okay, do me!" Also I don't think a pillow princess makes much effort to give back. It's all about the princess!
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I've never had straps on my ankles at the dr's office!
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Old 09-21-2013, 01:30 AM
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What does pillow princess mean?
I actually saw that term recently, I had never heard it before either. More or less meaning preferring to lay back and be pleasured by your partner.
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Still won't let them do it at the obg/gyn office though! No straps on my ankles, thank-you.
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I've never had straps on my ankles at the dr's office!
Me either! Just put your feet on the metal stirrups. I don't even think I've ever even seen straps on them!

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Old 09-21-2013, 02:29 AM
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I don't even think I've ever even seen straps on them!
I think straps on the stirrups would be enough reason to pick another doctor... with a quickness.
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Old 09-21-2013, 04:39 AM
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I've had them twice here and was very common in the home country. eek.
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Old 09-21-2013, 11:36 AM
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What, they think you're gonna hop off and run away, gown flapping in the breeze?
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What, they think you're gonna hop off and run away, gown flapping in the breeze?
Right? What exactly is the scenario where straps are required? I mean, that the hell are they doing to a poor girl to necessitate strapping her down so she doesn't flail around?? lol ... man, this topic really takes some wide angle turns.
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Old 09-21-2013, 04:21 PM
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I much prefer the stirrups with oven mitts on them, they stop your feet getting cold
The scenarios? Used to be for the just the basics. But a few times were for more serious things where you might just prefer to run off with your butt hanging out! You can PM me if you really want to know.

Suffice it to say, the only straps I enjoy being tied up with, are from someone with whom I have a safe word. And who brings you a drink and sandwich after!
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