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Old 09-18-2013, 03:36 PM
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Labels. Humans like labels. We like to organize, categorize, collate and tabulate. We like order and clarity, organization and a well oiled machine. We like control and dismissal, cold, calculated, tidy.

We don't truly like these things. We just think we do.

In reality, humans are messy.

For instance, I have many labels that could be applied to me. Often, they might seem contradictory, yet they are all bits of me that are true. The atheists would call me a Christian, the Christians would call me a heretic. My children call me mom, my husband calls me baby, my girlfriend called me sweetheart, and my mom doesn't call me. I am a polyamorous bisexual married female, a birth and breastfeeding advocate, a fierce believer in personal rights and the responsibilities thereof, a bit of a rational anarchist with some socialist leanings, a lover of both science and spirit as twin cords that weave the Universe. Some people call me hippie mama with love and affection, some call me a damn dirty hippie with distaste in their mouths. I've been called a breeder and a leech, a pariah for sheer number of children alone. I'm a natural submissive with a taste for an edge of pain on my pleasure. I'm a vegetarian, but not because I think eating meat is inherently wrong. I don't shave my legs or my armpits; I do pluck my facial hair. I drink books like water, music like wine, and sex like hard whiskey. I love Love. Love fixes everything. I am a friend, an enemy, a lover and a fighter, a passivist and peace activist, a caretaker, cook, and chauffeur. I'm also the laundry lady. I am the mom who helps out in the kindergarten class. I have several tattoos and will probably have more before I'm done. I believe boobs make the whole world better, for many and varied reasons. I am the tooth fairy and Santa Claus, and my kids know it. I believe in prayer and in research. I only wear underwear because my husband likes sexy panties. I also like to wear long skirts and head scarves. I rarely wear makeup, but some days I drip with jewelry. I miss my dreadlocks, and want them back.

I am painfully human. Hello, fellow travelers. My name is Josephine.

I may continue to lurk awhile longer before I speak much more. I am glad to have found this place.
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Old 09-18-2013, 11:43 PM
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Hello Josephine,
Welcome to our forum.

If I needed a label fix, your self description satisfied my craving! I think anytime a person has some unusual or "non-standard" characteristics, they'll draw criticism from much of the society that surrounds them. It's an unfortunate phenomenon, and a shame that some people have tried to stick some negative labels to you.

I'm a pretty hard-core atheist, but most of my friends/family are either full-fledged believers (not necessarily belongers) or agnostics, so I'm sure we'll get along fine.

Glad you could join us; hope you enjoy your stay.
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Old 09-20-2013, 08:18 PM
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Hmm. Methinks I was a bit over the top for most of you, perhaps. It wasn't intentional. I was actually going for a bit of silly and sarcastic. I don't do intros and talking about myself well, so I took it over the top for effect. I see that it was too much. Sorry, folks. My sense of humor is admittedly a little tongue in cheek, and less effective without tone of voice and body language to go with it, I suppose.

Anyway, if y'all are okay with the weird girl hanging out in the corner, then I'll stay. I ought to give more info about our situation, though it doesn't really matter. I'm not seeking advice or help really, just people to talk to that I don't have to hide a part of myself from. That's the hard part for me. I dislike deception and hiding, and yet, I have to do some of that because the redneck backwater I live in would flip over the words "polyamorous bisexual" and probably tar and feather me out of town. Heh.

If you made it this far and are curious about such things, my husband and I have been married for almost 18 yrs. I had girlfriends when I was young, before we met, but once we were together, we were (for the most part) monogamous. There was an issue or two, for each of us that, if we had known what we know now, would probably have been handled quite differently. Ah, but that is hindsight, which is a rather useless pursuit. However, I do think those things still had a hand in laying the groundwork for where we are now. Add in the fact we are both huge, huge Heinlein fans, and have been since long before we met, and you can see a bit of how we are fairly happily morphing into a poly couple. Or at least, we've accepted the idea that we have enough love for more than just ourselves, and have had some experiences in the last two years that have fed the idea. We've made a few beginner's mistakes and (hopefully) learned from them. Currently, we have no OSO's, nor are we looking, per se. What will be, will be. If love comes our way, fantastic! If it doesn't, we know how to be complete with one another.

So, that's us. I hope I wasn't too off-putting before. I'm just a bit of an odd duck is all.
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Old 09-20-2013, 10:09 PM
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Hmm. Methinks I was a bit over the top for most of you, perhaps. It wasn't intentional. I was actually going for a bit of silly and sarcastic. I don't do intros and talking about myself well, so I took it over the top for effect. I see that it was too much. Sorry, folks.
I'm a bit confused (nothing unusual there) did you edit out something? Not sure why you're so apologetic, I liked your intro.

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Old 09-20-2013, 10:50 PM
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Aw, maybe it's just my own hangups jacking with me. I didn't edit anything, I just had the feeling I might have made a few people go "Um, okay... weirdo."

I'm used to that reaction, though.
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Old 09-20-2013, 10:56 PM
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Awesome into. Not weird at all. Was a great read with many laughs.
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Cool. Yay! That was the point, to be funny and light-hearted. I just wasn't sure it was coming across that way. The internet can be a strange beast for communication purposes.
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I'm with the others, I think your intro was A-O-K. Entertaining and a refreshing change from the same-ol', same-ol' I'm used to (with my relentless posting on the intro board).
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Old 09-21-2013, 06:23 AM
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Aw, maybe it's just my own hangups jacking with me. I didn't edit anything, I just had the feeling I might have made a few people go "Um, okay... weirdo."

I'm used to that reaction, though.
Yeah...you might want to work on that self confidence thing, it might cause mucho insecurity issues in Poly...you must do as I do, assume everyone thinks you are hilarious until proven otherwise!
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Old 09-21-2013, 01:57 PM
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Oh, I know I have issues. I've been aware and working on them for years. I'm actually tons better than I used to be.
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