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Old 09-20-2013, 08:15 AM
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I read it more as US-style dating is where you go out with someone you don't know very well to see if there's any compatibility, whereas European-style is where you start seeing someone you already know quite well as a friend. The second style is what you commonly see here in Australia; I don't know how common it is in Europe.
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Old 09-20-2013, 08:25 AM
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I think those things are largely dependent on lifestyle. Eg. A single professional person might find it easier to meet people in their day to day life than a single SAHP. I know that as a SAHM myself, the likelihood of me dating someone already in my social network is slim to none: it would almost feel incestuous at this point because we have all hung out for so long. The most likely ways for me to meet people right now would be online dating, join a munch\poly group, whilst out socialising with existing friends (perhaps a stranger I meet or an acquaintance of a friend). All of these methods of meeting someone involve getting to know someone pretty much from scratch. I'd hazard a guess that the vast majority of people with a similar lifestyle with me is more or less in the same boat. By a certain age, your social group becomes sort of static, and unless you work or have the time to socialise relatively often, you'll rarely meet new people.
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Old 09-20-2013, 09:00 AM
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I read it more as US-style dating is where you go out with someone you don't know very well to see if there's any compatibility, whereas European-style is where you start seeing someone you already know quite well as a friend. The second style is what you commonly see here in Australia; I don't know how common it is in Europe.
Hmmm, maybe you can date within your social circle at 17 but 27,37 or 47? Not so much, no people in Europe either meet people at work, out socialising or on the net, besides even if your partner is your cousin Frankie's best friend, they would have been your stranger at one time.
Also, very often groups tend to be either homosocial or couple focused, where are these friends we date supposed to come from?

Like I said...weird ideas of Europe.
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Old 09-20-2013, 07:30 PM
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Me too..I can't believe I missed the European comment earlier but....what??

Europe is made up of dozens of Countries with widely different cultures. Not some homogeneous mass of sameness,,,there is no "European Style" of dating. Italians don't date the same as Swedes, the Poles date different from the Brits and I'm not too sure that many of us 'date' like LR.
I was just going by what I learned in a discussion thread in the forums on OKC where Americans and Europeans all weighed in on what "dating" is, and by no means did I assume that it was black and white - but every European that added to the topic had very different definitions of dating than the Americans did. I don't have time to add details right now, but maybe later. I know I've posted about it here before. I'm certainly o expert and I could be completely clueless - I should've said LR's style of dating matches what I've been told is a very European way of doing it. But that's still lame, I know. Sorry to be such an ass!
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Old 09-20-2013, 08:11 PM
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I wont date coworkers or classmates so saying sites it is.
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Old 09-20-2013, 08:17 PM
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Naah, it is not really important in the grand scheme of things anyway is it? The great variety of human culture eh?
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