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Old 02-27-2010, 06:38 PM
spacehippiegeek spacehippiegeek is offline
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Default Does anybody have experience searching for a counsellor?

I have a problem which I have no idea how to deal with, and I was wondering if anybody here had been through this, or had any advice.

I need counselling. This is not for any issue to do with polyamory, but for personal issues. I saw this one counsellor last August, but I stopped for several months, due to my struggle to take care of my mental health. (Yes, I realize it should have been the other way around - I should have seen him more, when I struggled more.) I wasn't poly or in any relationship at the time.

Now I want to start counselling again. In the mean time, I've started a new relationship with a married poly man. I really don't know how to approach the counsellor to ask him if he is accepting of polyamorous relationships. I don't know if it's a good idea to bring it up over the phone. Or maybe I should just go to an appointment, and bring it up then. But I don't know if I should spring it on him with no warning.

I should also mention that his particular guy does Christian marriage counselling. He was very professional and respectful when we talked, and he never brought up religion. But I suspect he is more conservative on romantic/sexual issues. That was not a problem before, because I was single then. So if I have to look for a new counsellor, should I maybe ask them how sex-positive they are, rather than asking outright how they feel about honest, ethical non-monogamy?

I can't be the only person who's had to deal with this. Does anybody have any advice?
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