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Old 02-27-2010, 01:41 PM
JustAGirl JustAGirl is offline
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Default Veto Arrangements - Merged Threads, General Discussion

Good morning, fine folks!

I hope your Saturday morning (or whatever day you read this on) is treating you well.

This thread regarding re-opening a mono relationship back to poly status after having set a solid footing, inspired me to write this post.

Personally, I'd love to get into some kind of circle where I can meet people who are already poly involved and have already worked out some of the fundamental details to a level that I agree with and appreciate.

In specific, regarding VETO agreements... there's a big part of me that doesn't want to have to negotiate their entire parameters. I'd like to find someone with parameters already established that I'm comfortable with and agree with.

It may be a dream, however.

I'd love to hear from those more experienced about your VETO agreements regarding relationships that your significant others wish to or have already gotten involved with.

Also, I'd like to hear about how well these discussions and agreements helped relieve some of your anxieties about the quality of person your poly partner was going to bring into the mix (whether casually or seriously).

Are there examples of people who were highly anxious before the veto agreement was put into place that felt noticable relief with the agreement being in place, and even more relief as the agreement was put from theory into action?

What about those of you who do NOT have a veto agreement - why don't you have one? Do you wish you did? Does it not matter to you if you do or do not?
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