Originally Posted by herstory
Haha, you are right. I'm a little nutty
when it comes to condoms.
We did use condoms up until we made an agreement that other people we had sex with would be safe.
I just feel that in my situation right now having sex with him anytime soon isn't going to happen. He made a promise he didn't keep. He's not a bad guy and yes, I kind of saw it coming - It still hurt my feelings.
But I appreciate your ability to be blunt and abrasive, lol.
No Marcus is not right. You are not 'nutty' about using condoms. You are making your own risk assessment about what you can tolerate and what you can't. Marcus makes his own assessments and they do not need to match yours.
Women are MORE at risk of getting STIs from sex with a male partner. It is riskier to be the penetrated party than the one doing the penetrating. Fact of biology. It is true that condoms don't fully protect against everything all the time. But they do cut down the risk of transmission significantly.
So, yeah, men should use condom's for 'women's sake.' I do believe men need to be aware to use condoms partly because of the increased risk women bear in sex even as the main reason remains that condom use reduces men's exposure to STIs and reduces pregnancies. And condoms used properly do so with great efficiency.
And you should feel what you feel in regards to your thoughtless former lover. It is good he told you he had unprotected sex before you and he had sex again. But that is just being an adult. No need for kudos. It is ok to feel betrayed and to lose trust in him. That doesn't make him evil, a villain, or an all around asshole. He has shown himself to be unreliable and untrustworthy. Not worth giving a fuck, literally. He has shown you who he truly is. It seems you believe him and have disentangled yourself sexually which is wise.