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Old 02-18-2010, 11:00 PM
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But somewhere, down deep, I don't want to do that. I just want to be able to accept it - as the gift it is ?
And it's only when I go to return that gift and maybe our understanding is not the same that problems arise ?
I think that's it exactly.

Love is so personal and dynamic. Love is never the same twice. Even at two different times of the same day with the same person, I feel love differently.

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Furthermore, I think people have alot more control over thier emotions than they realize. I think there are times that you can choose to be happy, sad, angry, resentful, etc. Then there are times you cannot (medical depression) or times when it is certainly harder (death of a loved one).

Sometimes I choose to be sad, even if I do not want to be... Because I feel there are times when it is warranted and actually healthy to live in that emotion for a while. Other times i say "fuck off" to it.

This is all my opinion, of course... and how I try to live my life.
It took me a very long time to get to this place, but I completely agree. People who "choose not to choose" spend a lot of time having feelings that they don't want to have, unempowering themselves, and allowing others to "make" them feel a certain way.

I try really hard to avoid the term "you made me feel ___" because whatever someone else's behaviour, it was ME who "made me" feel however I felt about it.

It's the most empowering thing to realize that you control your destiny by controlling how you react and feel about the situations life throws at you. If you give that power away, you do yourself a great disservice.
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