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Old 08-25-2013, 03:51 PM
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Yeah. Pretty much. I let someone take sexy, racy pics of me atthe Haelstorm concert.
Just a friend. 25 years of just friends and always will be just friends.
But i didnt have permission. So back to the shithole for breaking an agreement.
Interesting. I don't know how I feel about that. I guess you guys have all agreed to.that boundary. It just seems kind of odd to.have that one.
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Old 08-25-2013, 06:30 PM
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Interesting. I don't know how I feel about that. I guess you guys have all agreed to.that boundary. It just seems kind of odd to.have that one.
It served a purpose at a point in time. Today is a somewhat better day. The temper has cooled and he suggested it was probably past time to renegotiate boundaries (which it is-but that's a different story).

Keeping in mind-we were dealing with re-earning trust. Which is wholly different than agreeing together to open a relationship. So there were boundaries created for the purpose of giving time to re-earn trust etc.

Anyway-It was a shitty day dealing with hurt feelings and temper. But having slept on it, he's calmed down (he's also gone-been out of town for work for 6 weeks) from the initial "WTF" and at a "ok, this is a minor detail and we should renegotiate".

Anyway-I relaly only came back to reply-because I liked your response. Primarily because I know perfectly well it's a boundary that in and of itself is confusing to most people here-and yet you were so respectful about it being an agreement we made for reasons unknown.

I wanted to say thank you-because it's so easy on here for people to jump into "that's fucking ridiculous and unfair" and some things are-it's true. But sometimes, unfair is exactly what is needed to allow the consequences of a different "unfair" to heal.

So anyway-thank you for your kindness. It really did touch my heart.
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Old 09-01-2013, 02:06 AM
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Default Pretty good summer :)

I must say that the last few months have been really good on the relationship front. I had managed to get into a good time-splitting routine with both my guys and worked on improving communication with hubby about my needs. I stopped feeling as if I needed permission to spend time with my bf and worked it more like "I'll make sure I let you know my plans with some notice whenever possible" and stopped asking "is it ok with you if" I do stuff with him. This seemingly small shift in behaviour has been rather freeing. And another plus, the bf's mates have been pretty good at giving us our privacy when we need it, for the most part.

The best part of the summer was that the boyfriend and I managed a glorious four-day vacation together for the first time. I have been on many trips with hubby but had never gone away with my boyfriend before. It was wonderful and we made some great memories. I also went on a nice family trip with hubby and the kids to my hometown, something I hadn't done in a while.

I'm going to try to dwell on all the positive aspects of this past summer as we go into fall and have to adapt to a new schedule of sorts due to my boyfriend's work. For the next little while we'll have to make do with less time together due to his shifts. I'm hanging in there and so is he, hoping that things settle down to a new normal of sort. Missing him but feeling very lucky for all the love in my life.
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Old 09-02-2013, 05:05 AM
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Shitty. Lots of pain from a surgery and still emotionally on a roller coaster.
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Old 09-02-2013, 06:37 PM
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Dude is HOME!!! Yay! After 3 1/2 weeks away...MrS spent the night with friends and then went and picked up Dude to bring him home early to surprise me when I woke up. Happy, happy...joy, joy, joy!
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Old 09-02-2013, 11:51 PM
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N met some people a couple years,ago and he's gone to game night multiple times. They are a married couple who is poly. The wife is T married to L, gf to Z and E. L is trans and Z is bi with a male fb. Well I finally met them and went over for game night. Z took a liking to ne and we started to chit chat via FB. Then text. He's made it clear that he wants to see me on a romantic level and I have spoke with both N and T so everyone is fine with it.

We all went out last Fri, it was a good time. Going out with them tonight! Pretty excited, I really like Z a lot. He's years younger hehe
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Old 09-03-2013, 05:50 AM
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Fucking awesome! Serenaded to sleep by deluge of water (serious rain storm) on the tarps. Warmed by a brutal awesome fire my son made. Curked up in sleeping bags with 6 yo. Gg is at fire ganging with 13 yo a few more hours. Maca headed home this afternoon for work tomorrow (6 hr drive). We leave tomorrow.
It has been wonderful!
AND I caught my first silver salmon ever. 3 this morning.
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Old 09-07-2013, 05:15 AM
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Just got back from a few days at camp with my two guys - which was very nice. Have a show to go to tomorrow and Dude has invited someone he's been talking to on OKC. The boys have checked out a great restaurant for us to go to beforehand.

Life is good.
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Old 09-07-2013, 06:35 AM
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Crazy busy getting back to school. Had a 5 day weekend camping trip last weekend. Next weekend I have a 3 day camping trip. Taking SourPea (6yrs) and Little P (2 yrs) to meet Maca and Sweet Pea (13) at hunting camp.
We all return Saturday and then Monday Maca is off to work in Kodiak again. That part sucks.

Otherwise-life is good. I LOVE my social psych class already. The abnormal psych-mmm not so much. But it will be an easy A. Being TA for the stats lecture is enjoyable and an easy A also.
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Old 09-08-2013, 12:37 AM
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Getting to a good point emotionally after the break up (we'll see how things go on his birthday and our anniversary when they hit). Feeling a bit overwhelmed about looking for a new place (just trying to get times to look at places and figure out which works the best). Really excited and hoping for the job I have an interview with on Thursday. Happy to be going to a show tonight to do photos at.
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