I will try to make this fairly short but i could use help if anyone is willing. I first would love to thank Showtime for introducing me to Polyamory. I never thought there was a community like this and now i know i am not alone or weird. I was married for 18 years and only divorce now more 4 months. 3 years ago we met another couple and ended up falling in love with them. well 2 years into what we all called a "swinging relationship" the other couple divorced. the female in their relationship also asked for me to end my relationship with my wife and be with her. i choose not to leave my wife which ended our relationship, i allowed my wife and her boyfriend to keep seeing each other even letting him move in with us until he got back on his feet. well they became very close and decided they wanted to be together without me which at first hurt me because i feel like i lost out on everything because i was so open. so i guess i'm asking does divorce happen alot in the poly world? can a single straight man get into a community? where is a place to start michigan does not seem to be a hot bed for this? any help would be awesome cause i'm so confused and not sure what to do i know i don't like the traditional concept of marriage and i don't want to get into a relationship that someone would want one.