CIndie, that's a great point about public/private OKC!
My thoughts would be don't 'come out' at work but if someone asks (and your job wouldn't be in jeopardy) please say you're in an open relationship/marriage.
In order for the general population to become more accepting (ie eventually equal benefits as well please?) people need to know there are many happy 'open' relationships in the world. Unfortunately the only ones people tend hear about are the unhealthy ones so most people are very negative about 'open' relationships and say they never work.
My husband used an alias on OKC when he had a profile (b/c of concerns of being outed), do most people do that?
Of course if being 'out' would jeopardize anyone's employment, kudos to you for living your
way and sucks our culture still demands you do so in secret