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Old 08-23-2013, 12:55 AM
oneofmany oneofmany is offline
Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: North Carolina
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Question Changes in the relationship status and anxiety

We have been fully functioning as a live in v with myself being the hinge between Blue and M. M and I have been married 15 years but this may come to change. M has found a new gf who is requesting a closed monogamous relationship between her and M. M and I have discussed this and I have agreed that if this is what will make him happy, I will allow this to take its course. I still have feelings for M but at this time we will put our sex life on hold until he decides what he wants.

Blue has recently taken a new job and works four nights a week M-TH from 6pm - 4:30am. M is working W - Sun from 7am - 3:30pm days. This allows Blue and I to be home alone during the day and most nights I am home alone until M comes home for bed.

Blue and I have moved into our own bedroom and are currently adjusting to the new schedule.

M is uncertain if he is willing to be in a monogamous relationship, as our marriage has seen many changes and monogamy has not been one of his first choices. He has had two affairs early in our marriage and later we were involved in swinging and this is where we first met Blue.

I am anxiety when having to spend any alone time with M. As it seems, he is always depressed and I am having trouble finding my place in his life. As of now, Blue and I are just sharing the house with M.

Any advice or suggestions will be greatly appreciated.
Our roles
Me (OneofMany) - Poly F, 44, the hinge in our v.
M - my husband of 15 years, met 30 years ago
Blue - my bf - living with us since 1/2012
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