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Old 02-16-2010, 04:12 PM
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Default Sexually Compatible VS Compatible Sexuality

I recently spoke to Redpepper about the concept that people could be sexually compatible but not compatible in their sexuality. In essence - they can have great sex together, enjoy a wide variety of things in one environment or situation but have very different interests in sexuality as a whole.

I will take an attempt at an analogy. Take a person who loves to play catch. They spend lots of fun time playing catch with a good friend in the back yard and then their friend says "hey, why don't you come out and play a game with me sometime" The reply is "no thanks, I just like playing catch".

So now we might have a case where one person can't understand why someone who loves playing catch doesn't want to involve themselves in a game. The other person can't understand the need to add all the other aspects to what is an otherwise enjoyable and fulfilling experience.

Their "catch compatible" but not "game compatible"

Think of catch as sexually compatible and the game as sexuality as a whole.

Obviously there is only a problem if one person says "if you don't play a game I won't play catch with you" or "I don't want to play catch with you if you play games".

I'm wondering what others thoughts are on this? Does the concept of sexually compatible and compatible sexuality make sense?

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No need to read into this post LOL - Many of the ideas I have come from discussions with Redpepper and Polynerdist which make me look deeply inward. We don't tend to ride the surface with our chat so I am grateful for their inspiration to learn and share. I can almost draw all of my internal concepts with respect to how I experience love and relationships in general....I have spent a year internalizing.....my schedule is way too light apparently

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