Polyamory.com Forum  

Go Back   Polyamory.com Forum > Polyamory > Fireplace

Notices

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #501  
Old 08-19-2013, 11:28 PM
ShpaceEchsplorer ShpaceEchsplorer is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2013
Posts: 16
Default

I only managed to read the first page of replies to this. But, as a male... I got my first one word message. I figured women would be better at sending messages than men would... Possibly an offensive view, but I do view both genders as equal. But as a male, I feel like my version of messages vs. my SO's is that I'm short and to the point with no emotion and she can say stuff all poetic and nice.

So imagine my surprise when I had a message sent from a female on OKC that simply said: "Interested." Not as a question, but a single word statement. So I simply replied saying that I'm flattered that she was interested but at the same time I was offended that she didn't feel the need to actually SAY anything. Gave me the impression that since I'm male, I must be easy and desperate. I have feelings, lady!
Reply With Quote
  #502  
Old 08-20-2013, 03:12 AM
MeeraReed MeeraReed is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: East Coast, U.S.
Posts: 352
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Magdlyn View Post
He's 40% match, 600 miles away.
And I am sure you're not the only angel he's sent that to
__________________
Single, straight, female, solo, non-monogamous.
Reply With Quote
  #503  
Old 08-20-2013, 11:56 AM
Magdlyn's Avatar
Magdlyn Magdlyn is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Metro West Massachusetts
Posts: 3,759
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by MeeraReed View Post
And I am sure you're not the only angel he's sent that to
So obviously a form letter, and he's probably just out for money.
__________________
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37
Reply With Quote
  #504  
Old 08-20-2013, 04:22 PM
Inyourendo Inyourendo is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Crazytown USA
Posts: 1,092
Default

My highest natch is 99%. Omg he's good looking, the right age, we have tons in common, all of our answers are the same except the ones where he said he prefer being the sub, I prefer being the domme etc. I am everything he put on his "message me" section. He and his wife are very poly as well.

I message him, no response. So sad. The really funny thing is my husband is actually friends with him, they met several months ago during a medical study. So I message him again about that funny coincidence, no message back. Bummed. I wish I would get a courtesy "not interested" message.
__________________
Sue, hinge in a vee with Nate (Polysexual) and Sam (monogamous)
Reply With Quote
  #505  
Old 08-20-2013, 09:58 PM
Magdlyn's Avatar
Magdlyn Magdlyn is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Metro West Massachusetts
Posts: 3,759
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Inyourendo View Post
My highest natch is 99%. Omg he's good looking, the right age, we have tons in common, all of our answers are the same except the ones where he said he prefer being the sub, I prefer being the domme etc. I am everything he put on his "message me" section. He and his wife are very poly as well.

I message him, no response. So sad. The really funny thing is my husband is actually friends with him, they met several months ago during a medical study. So I message him again about that funny coincidence, no message back. Bummed. I wish I would get a courtesy "not interested" message.
That's too bad! I'd always respond to a 99% person. Has he been on okc lately? Maybe he's not checking?
__________________
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37
Reply With Quote
  #506  
Old 08-21-2013, 02:16 AM
Inyourendo Inyourendo is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Crazytown USA
Posts: 1,092
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Magdlyn View Post
That's too bad! I'd always respond to a 99% person. Has he been on okc lately? Maybe he's not checking?
Yep, he logged in after each message. It is too bad too.
__________________
Sue, hinge in a vee with Nate (Polysexual) and Sam (monogamous)
Reply With Quote
  #507  
Old 08-21-2013, 12:30 PM
Magdlyn's Avatar
Magdlyn Magdlyn is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Metro West Massachusetts
Posts: 3,759
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Inyourendo View Post
Yep, he logged in after each message. It is too bad too.
Awww! *hugs*
__________________
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37
Reply With Quote
  #508  
Old 08-23-2013, 11:38 AM
Cleo Cleo is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Europe
Posts: 417
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Inyourendo View Post
My highest natch is 99%. Omg he's good looking, the right age, we have tons in common, all of our answers are the same except the ones where he said he prefer being the sub, I prefer being the domme etc. I am everything he put on his "message me" section. He and his wife are very poly as well.

I message him, no response. So sad. The really funny thing is my husband is actually friends with him, they met several months ago during a medical study. So I message him again about that funny coincidence, no message back. Bummed. I wish I would get a courtesy "not interested" message.
I recently met a guy I'm a 99% match with. He's smart, cute, funny, kind, caring, really poly, and is totally into me.
And I felt zero chemistry. We hung out a couple of times as friends, I really really tried to like him as more than a friend... because he is, in every aspect, perfect for me.
But it's not happening.

Hope this makes you feel a little bit better No guarantees, not even with 99% matches
__________________
early forties, straight.
Reply With Quote
  #509  
Old 08-23-2013, 12:32 PM
Brie23 Brie23 is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2013
Posts: 5
Default

I mostly get people who tell me i should come to their home then get upset when i tell them no. I had one guy tell me that i was beautiful and had a great smile and he would like to get to know me. Went to his profile and he hated that he couldn't finish a blunt alone. I promptly left his page.

One guy wanted me to take a 14 question survey about sexual and non sexual questions in my life. It was a little to early for that on the second message.
Reply With Quote
  #510  
Old 08-23-2013, 12:53 PM
Magdlyn's Avatar
Magdlyn Magdlyn is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Metro West Massachusetts
Posts: 3,759
Default

I recently had a 95% match guy send me a couple of nice messages. He wasn't my type, physically, I wasn't attracted. But since he was nice, I said hi to be polite.

He told me he isn't quite poly but has had experience being a swinger and open. He didn't sound creepy, until he told me he "can't perform" wearing a condom, and was I fine with that? He could bring me his clean test results and assured me he is selective about his partners.

Um, no.
__________________
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37
Reply With Quote
Reply

Tags
communication, online dating

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT. The time now is 11:28 PM.