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Old 08-17-2013, 07:40 PM
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Ironically, I stumbled across a quote yesterday that appears to speak to my current situation.

"Falling's easy; you just fall. Jumping requires strength of will. ... Landing's a lot like falling; you just land."

I still don't quite know how on Earth the words are going to fall out of my mouth, but I now have the resolve that they need to be spoken. Thanks for being a sounding board and wish me luck!
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Old 08-17-2013, 08:06 PM
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I still don't quite know how on Earth the words are going to fall out of my mouth, but I now have the resolve that they need to be spoken.
I wish you the best - if nothing else it sounds like your boyfriend has a courageous woman in his life. Hopefully he appreciates this
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Old 08-17-2013, 09:35 PM
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I would just start out with asking him how he's doing with the breakup and his feelings then transition "where does this leave us"
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Old 08-18-2013, 06:08 PM
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The conversation actually came up quite naturally when he mentioned he had been on a couple new dates this past week. Unfortunately, when discussed he stated he preferred keeping things casual.
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Old 08-18-2013, 06:38 PM
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The conversation actually came up quite naturally when he mentioned he had been on a couple new dates this past week. Unfortunately, when discussed he stated he preferred keeping things casual.
Don't let this dishearten you. I am seeing a man who is going through a divorce. Besides the distress of dissolving the marriage, at times he finds himself experiencing illogical feelings like: living with someone leads to turmoil and chaos. He knows generalizing (especially given that I am 180 degrees different from his ex) is not rational, but he still has to work through it.

It may very well be your bf will want to remain casual with everyone for awhile, depending on what he needs to work through.
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Old 08-18-2013, 06:52 PM
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Thank you for the positive outlook bookbug. I think in this case though, he just does not find me girlfriend material. Accepting that is very difficult for me and has wrecked havoc on my self worth.
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Old 08-18-2013, 07:01 PM
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Accepting that is very difficult for me and has wrecked havoc on my self worth.
Just because things don't work out with him doesn't mean you are any less of a person.

Having said that, rejection sucks and hurts. Hang in there - time is the great healer.
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Old 08-18-2013, 08:02 PM
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Just because things don't work out with him doesn't mean you are any less of a person.

Having said that, rejection sucks and hurts. Hang in there - time is the great healer.
Agreed. Sometimes 2 people just aren't a good pair for whatever reason
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Old 08-18-2013, 09:11 PM
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Well... now you know.

It will take time to get over the disappointment. But you now know HE knows how you feel about him and that you are open to more.

Did you ask if that was a hard limit for him? That will NEVER change?

Or a soft limit that could change in time? And it's just not at this time?

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Old 08-18-2013, 09:17 PM
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Do not define your self worth by what one man thinks of you.

He has told you what he wants now decide if that is enough for you.
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