Originally Posted by idealist
That's probably why you aren't in a co-dependent relationship. It takes two people a lot of time, energy and a real (often subconscious) commitment to create a dependency like that.
Hahaha, this actually makes me laugh out loud, it's so true. And yes, I am totally participating in the co-dependency, I wholly admit it. I started reading about co-dependency after you mentioned it, and woo-wee...pretty amazing stuff to think about, very relevant.
I have really started to evaluate my own life's goals/intentions vs. what I have chosen, and am thinking about how I very often just go along with what my partners want in life. I want to be a stronger person, with more spirit and drive for my own life vision.