I am as open as I am lazy. I just don't tell people but I don't hide it. I don't treat it as something special and people see what people see. Anyone that I call friend knows.. Everyone else is just passing through.
Family is different I am very open with those I care to keep in touch with
That said I am also not really a part of the poly community.. Too much work.. Too many politics and just not my thing. I have friends some poly some not. Who knows maybe if I was in Victoria where a lot of my poly friends are that might have changed. But in the end..I don't do meetings or meetups.. Too organized and I this community too structured.
There also seems to be an expected set of ressponsibilities when poly and part of the community. So far out of the scope of what I want.. I avoid it.