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Old 08-07-2013, 12:08 PM
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Originally Posted by Endicott View Post

No problem re "dickishness" You are allowed an opinion.

I understand your point, but courtesy is courtesy. Online or offline. A template "thank you no thank you" is better than silence and is just good manners. Its how I operate in the business world and with the websites I manage; this should be no different. And when we start talking about being efficient in the context of human relationships, we start treating people as objects, a nuisance and not a person.
New to this thread, so I am behind....

Of course , I don't know your approach when introducing yourself, but as a woman who wrote at the bottom do her OKCupid profile:

You should message me if
You want to interact online with someone who enjoys exchanging ideas without any preconceived notions of hooking up - I love intelligent conversation!

And the first email is about hooking up. Or the conversation starts out with: how r u? I feel like the person really hasn't taken the time to read my profile. I just received one whose opening gambit is that he'd like to build a long-term relationship with me. He doesn't know me for fuck's sake! It is creepy.

I do try to respond, but sometimes I just don't have the energy to deal with it.
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