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Old 07-09-2013, 07:07 PM
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Don't take it personally, BG is very egalitarian when it comes to dispersing his idiosyncratic brand of feedback. He just didn't get the polite and subtle subroutine when they were handing out communication software
Right, I got the "low bullshit threshold subroutine" when they were handing out the software because I was first in line and they only had like ten of those. By the time all the fashionably late people got their subroutines, all they had left was "polite and subtle". I think COBOL disappeared at the end of the 1900's, but I'm not certain.

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But I've noticed that he generally has valid points, so it might be worth having a read even if his presentation rubs you the wrong way. I mean, 10 days is a rather short period of time to start making plans even when NRE is running full blast...
The "R" in "NRE" stands for "relationship". This was not a "relationship" so there could not have been "NRE". Ten days and two dates is TEN DAYS AND TWO DATES. Yes it can BECOME a "relationship" but really seriously come on. The OP did this to herself, inside her mind. Unrealistic expectations, not "NRE".

"NRE". Pfeh.
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Old 07-10-2013, 01:44 AM
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a WEEK and a HALF ago? You mean like, ten DAYS ago?

How old are you?

Take a bath in some ice water. That should set you straight.
OP,
What BG wrote wasn't rude at all - I was going to write the same thing. Just because you ask posters to be "gentle" doesn't mean you're going to get "gentle."

I mean, crying your eyes out over someone you only knew for ten days -- really? I'd seriously be worried about my state of mind if I found myself doing that. Have you been depressed lately? Are you on meds that maybe need an adjustment in dosage? It's one thing to be happy and hopeful over someone you just met, but weepy is another thing entirely, and not a reasonable response. Even if you were monogamous, it sounds like you don't have much of a stomach for dating in general, if that was your reaction. Therapy might help.
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Old 07-10-2013, 01:56 AM
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The "R" in "NRE" stands for "relationship". This was not a "relationship" so there could not have been "NRE". Ten days and two dates is TEN DAYS AND TWO DATES. Yes it can BECOME a "relationship" but really seriously come on. The OP did this to herself, inside her mind. Unrealistic expectations, not "NRE".

"NRE". Pfeh.
It may not have been a real commited relationship, but you know those exciting hormones can kick in after just one make out session... I've had that happen. I think you may have too, BG.

Plus erkabu has NRE for poly itself. A romantic newbie's view of it, to be sure, with one big happy family, and her and the wife bffs and the kids all playing together. Just because we are middle aged and bitter doesn't mean we have to pee all over someone's lovely fantasies being dashed.
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Old 07-10-2013, 03:32 AM
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I've had that happen. I think you may have too, BG.
Yes, I call them "endorphins", not "relationship energy". One is based on brain chemistry, the other is some new-agey hoo-hah (I HAVE NOTHING AGAINST NEW-AGEY HOO-HAH BUT LET"S CALL IT WHAT IT IS).

Ten days + two dates = brain-chemistry imbalance (also known as a "bender")

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Old 07-10-2013, 03:38 AM
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Plus erkabu has NRE for poly itself. A romantic newbie's view of it, to be sure, with one big happy family, and her and the wife bffs and the kids all playing together. Just because we are middle aged and bitter doesn't mean we have to pee all over someone's lovely fantasies being dashed.
Remember that woman who had a dream about having a threesome with like some greek or roman gods and came here all convinced that she'd had a poly relationship in her dream? That's what this is like except it was while the OP was awake.
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Old 07-10-2013, 04:09 AM
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Remember that woman who had a dream about having a threesome with like some greek or roman gods and came here all convinced that she'd had a poly relationship in her dream? That's what this is like except it was while the OP was awake.
Ok BG...U made me spit out some of my shipwreck (drink) in laughter. Ur funny.

In all seriousness though, you usually make great points in ur posts, and I respect ur no bullshit stance...
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Old 07-10-2013, 05:04 AM
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Ok BG...U made me spit out some of my shipwreck (drink) in laughter. Ur funny.

In all seriousness though, you usually make great points in ur posts, and I respect ur no bullshit stance...

I don't make this shit up.

What is in a "Shipwreck"?
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Old 07-10-2013, 05:19 AM
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I don't make this shit up.

What is in a "Shipwreck"?
Oh I never said you make things up, just find how you put things funny, thats all.

Shipwreck is oj, pineapple juice, grenadine, light rum, triple sec, midori..served ovr ice....if u want exact amts let me know, I wld be happy to share the specifics of tht recipe. It was a drink we had when we attended our local renaissance festival, it is yummy.
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Old 07-10-2013, 05:22 AM
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Just because we are middle aged and bitter doesn't mean we have to pee all over someone's lovely fantasies being dashed.
Well said.
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Old 07-10-2013, 06:22 AM
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I get being disappointed, the crying might seem extreme but it seriously sucks when you have chemistry with someone and the kabosh for whatever reason.

I had a series of disastrous OKC dates a couple of years back, happy to only see those guys once! Only to finally catch up with one half of a couple I hd seen around the place for a few years, finally some chemistry....

Only to find out they would only accept a Unicorn, it was their only purpose in Poly. That was vexing to a the least.
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