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Old 06-30-2013, 08:55 PM
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Did you see this coming? What was her reasoning?
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Old 07-01-2013, 12:11 PM
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I am so very sorry. All I can say is this after being dumped with a 4 mth old baby & a 4 yr old...focus on staying in the moment....the actual present moment & your breath. Focus on what you have to be grateful for because no matter how much things suck, you have things to be grateful for. Get down to basics if you need to. Your child is healthy, you have a roof over your head, food in the frig, money in the bank, your GF, you are ok right now, right at this present moment. You don't have to figure this out. If you try you will drive yourself nuts. Sounds like you already know some things & others will become clear over time.

Your wife is infatuated with a new lover. Plain & simple. It has nothing to do with you not being good enough or her not loving you enough, she is missing something in her life & found it in this person temporarily. The chances that this is a lasting stable relationship remains to be seen. Maybe she will be back. I am sorry for you & I am sorry for your child. You don't just leave your spouse, you leave your child too.

Don't question poly b/c of one bad experience. Do you stop driving a car b/c you have 1 accident?
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Old 07-01-2013, 12:49 PM
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Things always work out in the end. If it doesn't then its not the end.
Hey, that's my line!

I'm sorry that you're going through a breakup Z. It sounds like you're well on your way to healing though. There will be good days and bad days and it will take time to find your new normal.
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Old 07-01-2013, 01:24 PM
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You don't just leave your spouse, you leave your
What the heck? Since when does ending a marriage mean you have also left your child?

BS....
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