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Old 06-28-2013, 04:46 PM
PaulDrakket PaulDrakket is offline
Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Columbus, OH
Posts: 14

Obviously, I chose poly. The only cons I have on poly have bright sides, and the only pro I see of monogamy definitely has a dark side.

Pros: freedom, validation of my natural desires and pursuits instead of condemnation and repression
Cons: societal judgment and having to 'hide'
De-cons (bright side): being in the minority and having a secret from the world can feel cool; I'm a bit of a rebel spirit, so doing taboo stuff (having multiple partners, threesomes, etc.) is really exciting and fulfilling

Cons: rigid relational structure/s (serial monogamy), no smooth transition from one partner to the next, relationships are like switches instead of sliders (and you are only supposed to have one switch on at a time).
Pro: the feeling of being the 'most' to someone
De-pro (dark side): enjoying the feeling of being the 'most' to someone has really questionable motives and roots. Being the most to myself is totally good enough
Me: Straight male, anarchistic polyamorist, hate labels
N: Straight male, best friend throughout childhood
M: Bisexual female, introduced her to poly
C: Bisexual female, 'girlfriend' of N before poly encouraged de-labeling
A: Straight female, newest in my life

I love them all.
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