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Old 06-20-2013, 10:12 PM
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BoringGuy,

I am a Christian that doesn't believe in birth control. They are abortificines. You get pregnant on them and then it crushes the egg. I have done the research. I am not saying I am going to have a baby with these two either.

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Old 06-20-2013, 10:26 PM
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it crushes the egg.

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I'm out, sorry, I can't read this...I refuse to believe there is anyone that daft in reality and therefore the OP must be a windup merchant!
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Old 06-20-2013, 10:56 PM
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I'm out, sorry, I can't read this...I refuse to believe there is anyone that daft in reality and therefore the OP must be a windup merchant!
Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain.
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Old 06-20-2013, 10:59 PM
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BoringGuy,

I am a Christian that doesn't believe in birth control.
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Could you explain why you let the kid call you by a jewish nickname? I am enjoying reading your replies.

Thank you
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Old 06-20-2013, 11:11 PM
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Wow just wow..

Good luck op you're going to need it. I am going to refrain from this thread otherwise I may get myself in trouble.
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Old 06-21-2013, 12:12 AM
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BC beliefs aside, anything that happens from here on in happens based on your OWN decisions.

If you are getting steamrolled with respect to your beliefs on how your child should be raised, if you choose to continue to have unprotected sex, then YOU are partially responsible for what happens with respect to raising that child.

If you do not like the way things are going, then YOU need to change direction.

You've asked for help and advice. That's all I can give you at this point.
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Old 06-21-2013, 12:36 AM
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FoL, i am surprised at you. You are a physician, no? You are educated and have some exposure to things that are not necessarily part of your everyday routine? With that in mind, have you ever seen how birth control pills come? They come in distinctively-shaped, sealed foil-and-plastic blister-packs, and depending on the formulation, the pills for various days can even be in different colors (not the placebos only). So, in order for someone else to change the pills and have the woman not notice, she would have to be so dumb or disoriented that she would not notice "hey, why are all of these pills punched out and put back in the package", or the person switching them would have to have access to the kind of equipment the drug companies use to package and seal the same exact product.

I could never understand this whole "switched the birth control pills" thing, as it makes absolutely no sense in reality.
No, that is not what I meant. I would hope somebody would not go to those extremes. You would have to be a complete idiot to not see that someone had punched out that day's pill. I put nothing past people, though.

What I meant by switching was coming from the frame of mind that, what if they offer to bring it to her and swap the pill out with something else? I doubt anyone would tamper with the pack or go to the extreme of trying to have one made just like it. I will leave that to the criminally minded individuals. Would it really be suspicious if someone was to bring the pill to a person with coffee or breakfast? If it was a loved one doing, I would not think twice of it.

People go to extremes when it comes to wanting (or not wanting children). My friend's ex-husband was giving her birth control pills mixed in with her morning tea. She thought it was just a nice and sweet gesture. Like, "Aww. He is making me tea and bringing me breakfast in bed every morning." Little did she know. They ended up going to a fertility specialist, and the blood work was how it was revealed. He was a hell of an actor. Playing the role of the supportive husband, dutifully undergoing all the tests, and knowing all the while just what he was doing and why they could not conceive. The full extent was revealed during the divorce proceedings. Due to his actions, he got screwed in the divorce, and karma is still kicking his bum.

I do wonder if the OP is the first "third" this couple has propositioned with such a generous offer, or is it possible the others backed away and ran? I might have missed where she said this was/was not their first poly relationship. She said they first mentioned TTC about a year ago. A year later, and they are still wanting it? Just adopt or use a surrogate. How does a conversation about TTC--without the mother of this proposed baby being involved--actually work?
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Old 06-21-2013, 12:50 AM
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Ok i see.

Wow i never heard of someone GIVING someone else birth control pills. It does not make sense though either. If a guy didn't want kids THAT MUCH, he should get a vasectomy. It doesn't require you BE THERE at the same time every day and, what if he missed a pill due to circumstances beyond his control? Does he just refuse to fuck her for a month? Is he that DUMB that he would think you couldn't find that in a blood test? Where did he get the birth control pills? Do you not need a prescription for them in the UK? Are you sure this is a true story?
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Old 06-21-2013, 05:33 AM
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Also, what does it mean when they are being affectionate and cuddling with me and bringing me breakfast in bed and things? I home sicker than sick today. I just don't get how the moods change and it confuses me.
It could be the "honeymoon" stage of the cycle of abuse. It's the flowers, candy, apologies, promise things will be better/change, etc. Before the next blow up.

Could google "cycle of abuse" and "cycle of abuse over time" and look at the articles/pictures.

You do not deserve to be treated poorly.
Could be cautious of "fake roses" over there -- the "sugar pie honey bunch" stuff just to mess with your head or encourage to to stay in a less than loving situation now that you are beginning to think about leaving. It could be designed to suck you back in.

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Old 06-21-2013, 06:50 AM
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FOL,

They have had a few relationships with other women. Two were before their DD was born and one was after but before me.

I don't know much other than the girl before me was taking BC pills behind their back. She stated she wanted a child with them but they found the BC pills that were just prescribed when helping her move.


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