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Old 06-20-2013, 06:21 PM
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For you first question why I put up with it with the whole bedroom situation, well I have because it is the only way I have personal time with him.
You are being a doormat (these other girls too, by the sound of it). The fact that you don't understand that you are just being a doormat doesn't change the fact that this dude is wiping his boots off on you whenever he feels like it.

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Our kids where never planned at all. They happened naturally as a blessing from God.
This just gets more and more weird with every new layer of information.

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She was a smart woman, successful, together, and she became a wreck and a recluse, and a child died because she let Joel Steinberg run her life.
I get what you're puttin' down nycindie, but I'm going to go WAY out on a limb here and say that this is not a transformation type of situation with the OP.
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Old 06-20-2013, 06:31 PM
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Why in Hades would you put yourself into this situation

This man sounds like the type looking to build his own frigging cult.
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Old 06-20-2013, 08:28 PM
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I missed this the first go-round:

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Our kids where never planned at all. They happened naturally as a blessing from God.
No, they happened "naturally" because you fucked without birth control and a sperm fertilized an egg.
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Old 06-20-2013, 08:29 PM
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Why in Hades would you put yourself into this situation

This man sounds like the type looking to build his own frigging cult.
And he appears to be succeeding!
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Old 06-20-2013, 08:33 PM
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No not at all Natja just letting you know what I am aware of...
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Old 06-20-2013, 08:36 PM
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And he appears to be succeeding!
The man must make one hell of a pitcher of kool aide.
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Old 06-20-2013, 08:57 PM
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Yes Boring man naturally got pregnant like the way most teenagers do... without thought, without condos, just that young love! But regardless with love they were made and they are not fuck trophies for either of us.
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Old 06-20-2013, 11:42 PM
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I really appreciate all of your help on this topic everyone! You guys really touch on every thing that I put out here and dissect it well to get your points across.... that is truly a relief.

Nycindie, I actually read on the woman you mentioned earlier and my situation is no where near that severe. He does not hurt me or the kids like that at all. But I do see where you were going with it and I appreciate it. Someone mentioned forced pregnancy, but he is not forcing them to have his kids I think he makes himself obligated to have there kids.
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Old 06-21-2013, 04:34 PM
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Speaking of religion, you all don't seem to be those Fundamentalist Latter Day Saints, you're not BCE Hebrews. You got sold a bill of goods, tempted by him bringing in women for you to have sex with, but of course, there's no chemistry, you're all just his chattel. He's sick, he's got a sick fetish that dehumanizes all of you-- you're all replaceable, he wants to pass his "strong" genes down, he doesn't want to be an involved father, he wants to be a pimp!!!

Get out now! Good lord, this is awful. This is not polyamory.
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Old 06-21-2013, 04:40 PM
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Get out now! Good lord, this is awful. This is not polyamory.
This topic seems a lot like discussing the wallpaper choices of a building which is engulfed in flames.
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