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Old 06-05-2013, 08:11 PM
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I am definably not taking the idea of this breakup lightly but with my biggest problem right now being I feel like he is treating my like his mother I am not sure me writing up a list of chores is the best idea for me.
There is an assumption that tends to get grandfathered into relationships and that is the idea that people who romantically love each other are supposed to live together, sleep together, spend all of their time together, etc. If they don't like living together, then they should break up because they're SUPPOSED to like living together.

This is total bullshit.

Those traditionalist trappings are just that; trappings. I need my own space and if at all possible I will not get involved in a living situation if I can't have it. For instance, when IV, CV, and I moved in together it was a stipulation that I had my own room and bathroom. It's perfectly reasonable (certainly because I pay an appropriate portion of the rent).

If it turned out that I couldn't stand living with them because they were slobs (or some other roommate related issue) I wouldn't have to renew the lease with them. Maybe I'd get an apartment in the same complex as them so I can be close but don't have to move their dirty laundry to sit on the couch.

He's a slob and won't pick up after himself? So, move out (or tell him to move out if it's your place). I don't see why breaking up is even on the table at this point. Fix the *actual* problem, which seems to be living together.
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Old 06-07-2013, 02:07 AM
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I have set a date for myself where I will set a date or him, if that makes sense. If within the next week I do not see improvement in his looking for work then I am going to give him a date that if he cannot contribute he needs to move out.
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Old 06-07-2013, 02:31 AM
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I have set a date for myself where I will set a date or him, if that makes sense. If within the next week I do not see improvement in his looking for work then I am going to give him a date that if he cannot contribute he needs to move out.
Edit: I misread what you had written.

Let us know how it turns out!
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Old 06-07-2013, 05:46 AM
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I have set a date for myself where I will set a date or him, if that makes sense. If within the next week I do not see improvement in his looking for work then I am going to give him a date that if he cannot contribute he needs to move out.
Good for you. Be firm and stand your ground, even though you have compassion for him. You have to take care of you! Keep us posted.
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Old 06-12-2013, 03:10 AM
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I think things are going better. All I can hope is that the months of a mess I have already been threw have not ruined things so much that getting things back together will get me over it.
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Old 06-20-2013, 01:49 AM
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Well he is out, at least for now. Told him I still wanted to date but not live together but who knows if that will work out.
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