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Old 06-14-2013, 07:06 PM
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I do NOT appreciate being told that i must constantly adapt my choices of words based on the possibility that SOME special-interest group spokesperson might get their hot-buttons pushed.
I'm genuinely sorry that you don't appreciate it.

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On this forum in particular, i have already been harassed and pushed to the point of losing my temper with one individual who took it upon themselves to speak for all "disabled" people and make an "example" out of me as Public Enemy Number One.
anger management, perhaps? Or just look at this when you feel angry inside at people on the Interwebz.

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The mainstream, neurotypical world needs to wake up and start being sensitive to autistics and other mentally and neurologically marginalized people...

Oh cripes. For realz? No thanks.
I'm sorry that my quest to get NT's to understand how they could embrace autism rather than simply tolerating it offends you.

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I hope this makes you all understand me better.
Yes.

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Old 06-14-2013, 07:21 PM
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I'm sorry that my quest to get NT's to understand how they could embrace autism rather than simply tolerating it offends you.
You don't sound sorry. You sound indignant and snarky. "i'm sorry you're offended." do you lack compassion as well as empathy toward OTHER PEOPLE with Asperger's Syndrome?

So basically, because i do not present, react, or conform to your idea of the way an autistic or aspie "should", you get to JUDGE me and declare my way of being WRONG? And you get to dictate to me what i must be FEELING because of that? I'll tell YOU how that feels. That makes me feel sick to my stomach.


And as to your "quest" - i've seen that before. I have observed that the moderators here do not find it appropriate to use this forum as a platform for "quests" or agendas, sometimes even ones that are on-topic, which this is not. My suggestion is that your "quest" may turn out to be counter-productive in some ways. But i don't care what you do. Just leave me alone.
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Old 06-14-2013, 07:23 PM
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Guys come on, lets try to be civil and on topic here. I'm not attacking anyone, I'm just expressing feelings I'm having. Please, let's stay on topic.

Now, in regards to studies. As someone with Aspergers, I clearly rely on logic for most choices. So when I see these studies about it, it makes me feel like my way is proven to be wrong. So it feels like I'm being forced. If feel like when I do enter a relationship, and choose to not be poly, that it makes me bad, that I will be unhappy unless I choose it (even though I don't want to). I keep imagining finding a partner who I'm dating, and that the partner will want to be poly. I don't want poly because I just don't feel fulfilled or happier in a triad. I don't want to deal with extra people also.

I just want someone to tell me that it's ok. That it does not make me lesser or wrong in any way. Because the idea that got planted in my head is that my relationship will not be truly unless its poly, but I don't feel that way. In fact I never felt this way until that day (the verbal hurt about my way to love).
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Old 06-14-2013, 07:28 PM
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We ARE telling you it's OK! That's what i did. I said "fuck 'em"! Then London the Autistic Awareness Police jumped down my throat and crawled out my ass!

You are ok! Nothing is wrong with you! Give yourself a break!

See London? The OP is not mad at me for saying that! It was what they WANTED to hear!
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Old 06-14-2013, 08:17 PM
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That's all I needed to hear.
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Old 06-14-2013, 09:17 PM
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Needed. Needed to hear. I stand corrected.
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Old 06-15-2013, 06:20 AM
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OP, recently there was a study where they reckoned that they proved that a dose of oxytocin seems to stop men in stable, monogamous relationships from cheating because these men who took oxytocin kept a larger physical distance from an attractive woman than those who didn't. Wow, right? Well the study was bullshit. On every level. Yes, they got those results but the rest of the study,ie how they went about it and how they picked people just invalidated the entire thing. It's so difficult to study relationships, there are so many different varieties etc. A study that claims to prove something like a particular relationship type is superior is more than likely flawed in it's methodology. That means the results aren't synonymous with logic at all.

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